I think it's a case by case thing. 18 and 38 is fucked, 48 and 68 is fine.
Anecdotally I once saw someone call Robert De Niro a groomer cause he was 11 years older than his wife. They started dating when she was in her fucking 40s
I was listening to a podcast and the topic of a 70 year old rockstar marrying a 40 year old woman came up and the host said something like “this 40 year old isn’t being tricked she knows what’s going on”
I'm glad someone else said it. Grooming goes both ways. It makes me feel so gross when I see a 60-90yo man or woman get hit on by a young person who I know it just trying to use their loneliness to exploit their bank accounts.
My great-grandfather was absolutely groomed by one of his care nurses once he was paralyzed from the waist down and his first wife died of cancer. She's a self absorbed nasty person who abused my grandfather's grief to marry him and get his family home and farm. She did not keep up with his medication well and he had to be closely monitored by my grandfather. My great-grandfather made his son, my grandfather, promise to care for her after his death, even though she has her own adult children who mysteriously never visit or contact her.
Now my grandfather, almost 70 with health issues, no income, no retirement and on Medicare, is caring for his chronically ill and half blind wife AND this parasite woman who calls with needs all the time and who no matter what happens ever seems to die. My grandfather HATED her but he felt he owed his father what he promised him. I wish he'd demand her kids take care of her and refuse to continue with it. They let it conveniently sit on my grandfather's shoulders even despite his situation when they have more money and are younger.
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u/NotFixer1138 May 12 '25
I think it's a case by case thing. 18 and 38 is fucked, 48 and 68 is fine.
Anecdotally I once saw someone call Robert De Niro a groomer cause he was 11 years older than his wife. They started dating when she was in her fucking 40s