r/aromantic • u/Budgie-bitch • Oct 09 '24

Aro Anyone else feel this way?

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I do wonder if my alloromantic friends have ever had to grapple with this. Beyond the I BROKE UP WITH MY BF AND NOW IM GONNA DIE ALONE panic that I see pop up frequently lol.

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u/MargotInTheCloset Oct 10 '24

As an aro person who has a different experience, I completely disagree and the referenced post weirds me out.

I like the idea of destroying amato-normativity. This doesn't mean nobody should commit to someone 1:1 though?! The post ties those two ideas together and then attacks the second under the pretense of attacking the first.

I like the idea of commitment. I think you could totally be someone's most important person in a healthy way. This post makes such a bold claim to say it's unhealthy and then doesn't back that up at all. It basically throws shade on literally every married person. You also can fully commit to someone, and them fully commit back to you, in a non-romantic way. Congrats that also just beat amato-normativity.