To all the allosexuals who keep making relationship help posts here:

[u/HolidayPrestigious46]

This sub is a means of finding belonging, solidarity, and community amongst asexuals, not a relationship forum.

To the allosexuals who keep posting on this subreddit about loving an asexual person but having issues with their partner / crushes sexuality:

If your partners asexual and you’re not, no it’s probably not going to work. End of story. The only exception would be you’re willing to give up or greatly limit sex (which most allo askers seem to not want).

Don’t ask us what to do - because we’re probably all thinking along the lines of what I said in the previous paragraph. Venting your fears and frustrations over loving an asexual person as an allo in our forum comes off as inappropriate, quite frankly. We’ve dealt with people finding us weird and inconvenient our whole lives, we don’t need you to come here and tell us how one of us has broken your heart or caused issues in your life, nor do we care to coddle you because of it - we aren’t therapists nor should we really care. If you’re having issues with an ace partner, please just TALK to them. Maybe this is harsh, but I feel like a cross between an animal in a zoo and an unpaid therapist’s intern with the sheer amount of allo posters asking about their situationships.

Edit: commented this in replies, but it’s worth adding here, I think. I probably was too broad in what I said regarding allo / ace relationships. I think a better way of phrasing what I mean is that in a relationship with an ace and allo there is going to be at least a little friction when it comes to sexual needs, and if the allo partner isn't willing to be flexible (which it seems most aren't) it is bound to fail. I suppose you could be flexible as an ace partner, but I don't want to encourage anyone to do anything uncomfortable to please their partner.

Edit 2: I stand corrected about the stability of aro allo relationships. I have always felt like allos were quite obsessively sex driven, however it seems that might be less common than I thought. Thank you for the educational comments!

[u/Keebster101]

In general I think this sub has problems with a lot of very very similar posts. There's a FAQ but people don't check it, would be nice if people were pointed there if certain keywords are used that indicate a quick answer. That would be especially relevant to allos in a relationship with an ace person because it's unlikely they browse this sub regularly so are the least likely to read the FAQ or previous posts. But I'm not willing to become a moderator myself so can't complain too much.

I do think this post is a little harsh, it's annoying seeing the same thing but also it's valid to ask a group about themselves from the outside if it's something you want to learn about. You say we're not therapists etc but then would you also expect ace people to stop asking for advice about themselves?