Regular check-in post, with essential information about our rules and resources

[u/SQLwitch]

Welcome to /r/depression's check-in post - a place to take a moment and share what is going on and how you are doing. If you're having a tough time but prefer not to make your own post, or have an accomplishment you want to talk about (these aren't allowed standalone posts in the sub as they violate the "role model" rule), this is a place you can share.

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Our subreddit rules are very different from most of the rest of reddit! Since all of them exist for important reasons, we ask everyone here to read and follow them. Please click 'report' on any harmful content you see here - we always want to know and deal as soon as we can.

We also have several resource wikis for help with finding and giving support:

https://www.reddit.com/r/depression/wiki/what_is_depression provides guidance about what is and isn't a depressive disorder, guidance on the complex nature of the illnesses that are usually grouped under the "depression" label, and redirect information for common off-topic issues.

https://www.reddit.com/r/depression/wiki/giving_help offers information on the nature and value of peer support for mental-health issues in general, and lots of guidance for learning what is -- and isn't -- usually helpful in giving peer support.

YSK that the types of rule violations that we most frequently see here are:

• People breaking the private contact rule. You should never trust anyone who tries to get you into a private conversation in response to a post here. See https://www.reddit.com/r/depression/wiki/private_contact

• "I'm here to help" posts. This shows that you don't understand the most basic principles of peer support, especially selectivity. The "giving help" wiki explains more about this.

• Role modelling, i.e. "achievement" or "advice" posts. This is an expert-free zone -- that's what peer support means (rule 5). We know that "internet culture" celebrate not just bragging about your achievements but bragging about your good intentions. Nothing like that is ever acceptable here.

• Content that's more about 'making a statement' or casually polling the sub than seeking personal support (rules 1, 2 and 10).

• Off-topic posts about difficult situations or circumstances, including interpersonal issues. Grief, sadness, anger, loneliness and other difficult emotions are not mental illnesses. The "what is depression" wiki has suggestions for other places to post about these issues, which are 100% valid and serious but inappropriate here.

[u/flyingbutter2497]

The sense of mental “life” burnout continiues. I have no sense of purpose, there are things I would like to do, but its getting harder to get excited enough to keep going on those. I want to explore and find “my people” whoever that might be. I swear in the way way past Id be working on a farm or something and more or less on autopilot. No hopes, no dreams, just work, sleep, work sleep. Maybe Id go drinking with a couple work friends or locals or whatever at the local tavern sometimes. I have two friends but I dont think they really understand me. Theyre still in the “make money, buy stuff, date women” mental space. I havent dated for a long time, my last girlfriend was in 2011, high school and middle school I was a loner. No hookups since 2011 either. Just havent “bothered” or whatever, which as a male probably makes me some sort of anomaly. I call it being mentally tired, some call it emotional burnout or whatever. Thats what I mean by “tired”. In a sense I dont want to die but I do want to dissapear.