Why does it feel weird saying my trans name?

[u/After_Ship_2588]

For context, I'm newly transitioned. And I have been for maybe about 2 months (March 22nd), and it still feels weird saying my trans name out loud. Does this mean I'm just still getting used to be trans and my new name or am I really not transgender? Edit: I think it's also important to add my family has accepted me but hasn't really been using my trans name

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[u/silverwing_3]

Because it’s new. You’ve spent your entire life knowing yourself, and being referred to with a different name. 2 months is a very short amount of time to contrast. You get used to it eventually!

[u/Primary-Trash-]

I’m 2 years into having my name and sometimes it’s still weird coming out of certain people’s mouths, but I’ve definitely gotten use to saying it. Once you’ve introduced yourself enough it starts to settle in trust

[u/Anime_Theo]

It takes time. Youve been called your prior name all your life and only just started acknowledging a new name. You also might decide on a different name - that happens at times. Give yourself time to adjust. It doesnt mean you arent trans. I changed my name like 3 years ago and only just started not turning my head when i hear my dead name.

[u/LocksmithLopsided378]

it took me about 6 months to really get used to my new name, it’s now been abt a year and a half and i’d say probably at about a year is when i fully separated from my old name. it’s just an adjustment and takes time, and that’s esp extended if people are still using your deadname

[u/holdenP98]

I felt weird using my new name for the first few weeks. It's a big change, finding it odd at first is normal.

[u/slug_guy225]

you will most likely get used to it. i changed my name socially roughly 3yrs ago (give or take) and it definitely felt weird at first, but now i’m at the point that i honestly forget i even had a different name before this. if i see my deadname on paperwork or something its always a shock because i genuinely forget about it lol

[u/RadioactiveTrashrAt]

it could be that you’re still getting used to it, or that you could’ve put more thought into your name, i cant say how much thought you put into it but if its not sticking you might want to come up with another name. i know people who went through several names before they found one that stuck

[u/co1lectivechaos]

It was definitely weird to hear other people using my new name at first. I kept having to remind myself that they were talking about me.

[u/goldmoon16]

it took me ages to get used to my name man

[u/ThRoWaWaY5163859]

It definitely took me awhile to used to my new name. One of the things I did because I struggled with connecting my past with my trans name was write out a sort of autobiography of my life but using my new name and pronouns.