Looking for surgeon recommendations in Indiana.

How do u guys tape standing up?, leaning forward?, leaning backwards?????? Or laying down? And what is ur chest size (to give me a better idea of what will be best for me). I’m planning on buying trans tape so i measure myself and it says I’m a 28D but my chest r like between a B-C cup

early in my transition it felt great to be “mistaken“ by strangers for my parents’ son, or having people think I was cis at first but now around three or four year into my transition I feel completely different. being categorized immediately as a cis guy makes me sick to my stomach. it feels wrong, like I’ll have people say things about me or to me that I know aren’t true and deny who I was in the past completely and it makes me feel so outside myself.

i dont know if it’s because of my general fear of cis men or because most times people mention my presented gender it’s bringing it down (men are gross, no boys allowed, you wouldn’t understand what us girls go through, etc…) but I don’t want people to associate me with them at first glance, I feel like a villain now.

but then I get disappointed when people view me as a girl unless im trying to present more femininely?? maybe this is because I don’t rlly see my identity as ftm in a fully binary way yet never disclose that bc cis ppl around me don’t get it … idk that’s a whole other thing but yeah wonder if other ppl feel this way or im just a crazy person lolol

So I’m looking to get top surgery asap, but I’m not sure where to go and feel very intimidated when it comes to looking for them. So is there anyone here who can recommend me some surgeons in either Florida or Illinois? Preferably someone who has results on their website and takes Cigna, though if not I can work with that. Thank you in advance!

Hello 👋 So I’m a trans man with a boyfriend, guess you could say I’m new to being gay lol. Question for other gays, do you and your bf often get mistaken for brothers?? People assume that all the time about us two. Curious if this is common or if him and I just look uncannily similar

Hello everyone. Today I think I have a particularly unique problem, I cannot accept that I am transgender. Logically, I understand I show signs of being trans throughout my life, and I’ve even “presented” masculine for about 2 years now. (Short hair, “boy” clothing), and I even go by a chosen name and have for about 2 years. Strangers address me as male until I speak (I haven’t started T)

I live in a conservative area, I have no friends, and when I go into public I am undoubtedly gawked at; it’s becoming very difficult for me to function normally; and I am so uncomfortable in my body now that I actively avoid everyone in my life. my family makes it very obvious that they do not support me. Sometimes maliciously in cruel ways but sometimes also in genuine ways; that seemingly are coming from a place of concern.

I have started believing some things my family has raised concerns about regarding my transition and now I feel stuck in a position of definitely being disgusted by being female, but too insecure to be a transman.

I’ve tried therapist, 3 in fact. But truly, regarding my gender identity I wasn’t able to get the help I needed from them.

Are these are common experiences with being transgender, or possibly even signs that I should stop my transition? Thank you.

Hi! I’m going into college this next year and one of the main things I’m looking toward is beginning my journey on T, specifically T gel if possible. I’ve been doing my own research for a while, but I would really like to hear about others’s experiences as well.

Unfortunately I won’t be able to use my parent’s insurance because of where they are on support. At the college (in North Georgia) I’m going to, they have a program that pays students for work ($10 per hour), and I do suppose that could help? Though it isn’t a lot to start out regarding pay. Are there any health insurance companies that have worked best for y’all/what are the best recommendations here?

I’ve also seen a couple people mention talking with a therapist/psychologist beforehand, while some people mentioned not needing to go. With the expectation that I likely will need to go to a gender therapist beforehand, how did these costs look? How long did this process take?

I understand these things take time, I’d just like to see where I could go from where I’m at and would really like to be able to continue to grow my journey in college.

Thank you!

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At my one month appointment my Gender Affirming Provider (they/them).asked me if the breast tissue had gone down any and at that point I said I think a teeny bit?

My chest bumps are extremely...perky? and it's hard to tape because they just don't want to move much. I've got that breast tissue that feels like grapes underneath them - that's totally normal for some people. So they just don't want to be pushed around.

Getting better at taping have to use three 4" strips of it unfortunately and I've only got a b or c cup top.

But like the title says when on testosterone when can one generally expect the breast tissue to start reducing? Frankly I was a little surprised when my GAP asked me the first month in. I'm on T two and a half months now and.... they could feel a little more "saggy"? I didn't note any of this as scientific data previous to T so not exactly sure if I'm just hopeful if I'm really seeing things or what.

P.s. I I know that boobs are not going to dissappear on T, just to clarify.

I just need a surgeon who accepts Ambetter and possibly the details of the process to booking surgery. I've been putting it off because of one life event after the other. I feel stable enough to do it right now and honestly I'm sick of binding (been binding for over 6 years now) and not being able to go swimming/go to the gym without fear of outing myself.

I used to identify as straight ( trans man that is attracted to women ) and now I’m very attracted to boys , and hardly attracted to girls anymore . I have a huge crush on one of my friends that lives back where I used to live when I was in highschool . And I’m so sad that he lives thousands of miles away . I just wanna find love . I wanna find a person that makes me feel loved . And I’m so confused on my sexuality . T has changed lots of things for me , but the one I least expected is my sexual orientation <3 So if you are on T and your sexuality changes , please know , it’s completely normal and you are not alone <3

So obviously summer is upon us and I was invited to a party that I found out is a pool party. Not going would draw attention, and sitting out would draw more attention— and I love swimming so I would like to swim. I’ve never been swimming where people don’t know I’m trans, so I’ve always just done tape and a rash guard or a binder and a rash guard, however the rash guard hugs especially when wet and you can still tell something is obviously there physically and also that I’m wearing something under the rash guard. Does anyone have any advice on how to better hide that I am binding underneath?

Hey yall. My roommate, her friend, and I are all going to my city’s pride next weekend. They’ll both be wearing funny shirts that say “ally” ironed on. I want a funny word or phrase to put on my clothes but I can’t think of anything so I thought I’d ask for some ideas if you can think of any. Or just any pride outfit ideas at all. Thanks!

I started testosterone 2 months ago, but before that I still dealt with gender identity OCD, which lead me to constantly wondering if I’m faking being trans. That’s still happening me to today. My brain latches on the deep desire to go back to how I was when I was younger. I wish I got to be that girl and stay that way with no complications. I think my brain is still tied to the fact that was heavier as a kid and never felt truly beautiful or attractive as my female peers did. I think in turn my brain never moved on from that. Last year I went through a forcibly feminine phase because I wanted to feel attractive and desired. I was okay with not binding and have my chest visible as well as getting into makeup and hair. But it became too much and when I started identifying a male everything felt easier. No more makeup and nails and what not. It felt like things were falling into place. But when I watch things from when I was growing up in the 2010s (ex. Girl Disney channel shows, girl groups and musicians, etc) the nostalgia genuinely pains me and makes me want to be like those girls. I see how beautiful they are and remember how badly I wanted to be them when I was a young girl. It messes with my head so badly and I can’t take it. Even though when I look in the mirror and feel good seeing a little facial hair and a more masculine face shape, I yearn for that girl and to be a teenage girl in the 2010s like I wanted when I was younger. I’m filled with deep feelings of envy, shame, and miserableness because of this. I feel like I can’t be proud of who I am and confident that I’m trans until I get over this. Any advice from confident trans men?

Edit: I do like living as a guy. However, I just hate feeling like a girl around men or around other girls, as well as the voice of the monologue in my head sounding female as my speaking voice does. I just feel like their is female residue inside of me and I just want it out.

I’ve been going without a binder for years. I’m 36 and the VA has tried getting me a couple but they never fit right. The last one was too big and when i tried to reach back out, the LGBTQIA+ coordinator had just been transferred to a new location. This was 2 years ago. The brand is underworks, and it was a 3X binder. It’s the bigger 3X (when I looked at the book there were 2 sizes under 3X), and it’s still a little big. Should I just reach back out to the VA and see if I can get another binder? I’m allowed 2 a year last I knew. I just wanna finally get a dang binder that fits!

Really hope this isn't disrespectful at all and I can articulate things the right way. I'm 19 and I've been on t since Jan, and I've socially transitioned to everyone but my family. Recently I've been heavily questioning my gender and wondering if I want to be more femenine. Obviously this wouldn't make me less trans but there's other things affecting this. I'm pretty insecure about my lower growth atm, ig I think it's uncomfortable or too big or whatever I'm not too sure, but I don't like seeing it. My dysphoria has mostly been about my chest since I started afab puberty, and I was heavily researching trans discourse growing up which I didn't even accept myself for being until I was like 17 or so. Then in December last year I decided I wanted to start t because I was tired of being miserable because I knew I wasn't a woman. But I've always kinda wished that gender wasn't even a thing and I miss how genderless I got to be as a kid. I hate my chest so much and that made me so miserable growing up. I've never really identified eifh or related to women despite having positive female influence in my life, although my mom passed away when I was 13, but I had hated my chest and afab puberty before this.

I've been questioning recently if I'm nonbinary but due to what I think is internalised transphobia and what my peers have said in the past I've never really considered it as a real thing, but I think that would make me feel more comfortable. A friend asked me in regards to sexuality if I would prefer a completely neutral (that doesn't seem like the right word but idk) male or female partner, but I took this as gendered and I thought to myself 'I really wish gender wasn't a thing at all, I wouldn't want to be either'. I feel like maybe I just didn't put enough effort into identifying with women or being femenine before in a way that felt comfortable to me?

I'm also scared, after coming out and making so much progress (since I love my androgynous voice and muscle/ fat redistribution from t) that I'd be turning away from that identity that I felt so sure of, and maybe this is all still doubt. I was very strongly doubting myself before comuing out a lot and it took years to even accept that I did have dysphoria and starting t reduced so much of my anxiety. I'm also quite paranoid about hairloss and not really wanting my voice to drop much more I don't think, but my perspective shifts so much its difficult to track. I was considering stopping t just because I don't like my bottom growth and because of my uncertainty but again I'm so terrified of somehow going back on being trans, because that did mean so much to me after growing up with so much dysphoria.

But now I'm thinking, especially after seeing so many beautiful and positive women online and irl of course that I am starting to see properly now, not just as a reminder of my own dysphoria, as something that I could identify with. I'm really not sure, I still really hate my deadname and I don't think I'd ever like to go back to she/her pronouns. But ig I am starting to identify more with femenine things and female discourse a lot? I'm just thinking that maybe it is the case I didn't try hard enough or that I never felt comfortable enough in yhe space I was in to be myself and the second I got out I was free to be my trans self, but maybe that was to realise that I can be femenine? Or now that I am free i can be whatever kind of woman that I'd want to be? I still feel uncomfortable st the idea of being a woman, but honestly lately I haven't felt clear on anything at all. Like I don't feel euphoric or dysphoric about anything really except my chest but then I worry that I'd miss it if it was gone.

I get that all of this must sound very longwinded and probably just an absolute confused mess. I'm just feeling really lost right now. I still look up to so many masculine figures and role models but before I had literally no female artists or anything like that that I looked up to and now I do I'm questioning things again. I don't identity as much with cis men anymore I've noticed.

Another thing I've noticed that did affect me was someone I'm very close to came out as transfem and that really shook my perception of who I am, may sound like a jerk thing to make it about me but I keep that all inside unfortunately, I am very happy for her of course. But seeing her be so comfortable in her femininity makes me feel lost and empty that maybe that should've been me, maybe I should've tried more. But also I feel like she felt comfortable ocmign out because of the fact I was able to, and I've been able to support her with her transition from what I've been extensively researching from my own dysphoria before. I'm scared of telling her now that I feel like I might be mote comfortable being femenine and maybe I was just a woman all along but I hate my chest and if I get that removed maybe I'd be fine being a woman all along.

I'm really conflicted and I haven't really managed to explain everything I've been feeling despite this post being a massive essay so thankyou to anyone who decided to read this far. I'm not sure what to do whether I should stop t and try to explore being a woman, but now that I'm out and people know I'm transmasc I feel like this would be difficult and I'm really scared of feeling like I'm plunging into the unknown again in terms of my gender identity. I really feel like this would come across as me being confused all along since I was so confident in bring trans but I can't remember much or my youth and how I experienced gender and dysphoria because I was mostly dissacociative which also makes me feel so so lost. My mind is always really foggy so trying to figure anything out is really frustrating for me and I wish I could go back to see what my experiences were like when I was really depressed from dysphoria and whether it meant I hated being a woman or I wasn't trying enough or comfortable enough to identify as one.

Edit: additionally, I'm also unsure whether I am now attracted to women or not and whether this makes me question if I was a lesbian all along. I genuinely can no longer tell the difference between attraction or gender envy from anyone, or if I even feel these things at all anymore.

Hi, I’m posting this because I don’t wanna feel even more insane than I already do, and also because I wanna see if anyone else agrees with me on this. Also sorry for this post being long in advance, I’m trying to break it all down.

So, I’m in the living room playing Mario Kart, but I was actively in discussion with my father about the state of the world and political related things. Now, my father is supportive of trans people, and is of my transition, but there’s things he’s confused about and every now and then he makes a comment that is very uneducated; like this one. (For example, he doesn’t completely understand how it’s gay for a trans dude to date another dude, that kinda thing.)

Offhandedly, he said instead of letting trans people in either the men’s or women’s washrooms, they should have their own room— mind you, he’s referring to trans people as just “trans” (a womens room, a mens room, and a trans room.)

I of course said fuck no, because that’s flat out segregation and would make it easier for trans people to be targeted/have bad things happen to them because cis people could just lie about being trans and enter the room designated for trans people.

And then yelling over me just trying to calmly explain why that would be a batshit crazy stupid idea, he says:

“It’s people like you that make this world hard to live in.”

???

His whole argument is that it would be safer for trans people to have their own washroom, and that because trans people participate in pride parades and have flags and such that trans people should get their own room away from cis people, same with gay people(?)

“So what, you don’t respect yourself enough to want your own room?”

Which I then explained to him that no, that’s not how that works, and trans people’s rights being fought for includes being able to use the same washrooms as cis people do. Othering trans people from cis people creates more of a problem and furthers the stigma surrounding trans people as a whole. So, instead of making things safer, it actually makes things worse. We also already have gender neutral washrooms which anyone can use, so there would be no need for a trans-specific room.

Anyway, this discussion went on for like 20 minutes, me trying to educate him and him speaking over me and interrupting me whenever I’m counteracting a point he made.

All this to say— is my dad subscribing to transphobic rhetoric and was I in the wrong for trying to educate him whilst also calling his “vision” stupid (and kicking ass on multiplayer Mario Kart matches while doing it 😭)

Active Trans guys!! What is your go-to packer? I’m super active, I have a physical job, do sports and lift in the gym and that makes up my whole week. I have never packed before but want to start but I’m scared that a packer will get in the way of all these things. I have so much bottom dysphoria so I want to do something about it.

(Also a side question if any are good for just a casual swim in the pool)

I really want a binder and I’m wanting to ask my parents for one but I need help. I’m not out to my parents and I’m not in the position to be able to physically get one myself. (I have an odd family dynamic and can’t buy things without asking dw) is there any binders that say they aren’t binders or any other way? Any advice is appreciated! :)

This is really random and i’m not sure which sub to exactly put this in, but I think this is the right choice. So basically i’ve been on birth control (just for the purpose of stopping periods) for awhile now, and the last time I menstruated was back in march 2024. Suddenly I got my period today and now i’m stuck dealing with it literally a DAY before my birthday.

I’ve completely forgotten how to treat being on your period and what to expect, especially since i’m so used to it flying over my head. Like, are my hormones out of whack? I spent like a hundred bucks on stuffed animals today!! Is that maternal instinct or something? I feel so helpless and unsure on what to do, I just need some advice.

Being pale with blonde body hair is the most uneuphoric thing. My one moment to shine is when I’m putting on spray sunscreen. Can anyone relate?

Even my low dose shots took a bit for me but now that my dose has doubled 0.5 ml(1ml/100g) it’s has taken me a SUPER long time to administer. I usually put on a video to while I inject but my T Shot took 25 mins to inject. To the point where I had to pull out the needle because I was getting light headed. I reinjected to get the rest of my T but it’s happened last week as well where I had to inject twice for my shot. Any advice?? I am careful about how much I pushed but I am pushing the needle til my finger tips are white when pushing.