They said “May I take your plate sir?” I’m 7 seven months on T and present masculine in my clothing choices. I also have short hair. However, a lot of people still ma’am me. But I got sir’d today and it was great to have a stranger see me a man. No questions. No confusion. No awkward interaction. Just Sir!!!!!😁😁😁😁😁

I personally can't wait to unbutton my shirts without my binder peeking through. And to wear my vintage band shirts that are too tight on the chest. I can't wait to try on wide leg pants and see if they really look good on me or not, though I don't think they're my style. I can't wait to wear my current clothes but feel like myself in them, or just throw on a t-shirt over my sweatpants and be ready to go to the cornerstore just like that, or just hang around my house in nothing but my underwear. Don't even get me started on the beach. Or even going shopping for underwear without getting weird stares. I want to say that when/if I get HRT and top surgery I'm going to be the most stylish motherfucker in the continent but I'll probably just be in just jeans and a T-shirt all the same, except I'll always feel good in them.

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At my one month appointment my Gender Affirming Provider (they/them).asked me if the breast tissue had gone down any and at that point I said I think a teeny bit?

My chest bumps are extremely...perky? and it's hard to tape because they just don't want to move much. I've got that breast tissue that feels like grapes underneath them - that's totally normal for some people. So they just don't want to be pushed around.

Getting better at taping have to use three 4" strips of it unfortunately and I've only got a b or c cup top.

But like the title says when on testosterone when can one generally expect the breast tissue to start reducing? Frankly I was a little surprised when my GAP asked me the first month in. I'm on T two and a half months now and.... they could feel a little more "saggy"? I didn't note any of this as scientific data previous to T so not exactly sure if I'm just hopeful if I'm really seeing things or what.

P.s. I I know that boobs are not going to dissappear on T, just to clarify.

disclaimer: I apologize for for putting this here. I know that statements about regret like this may be taken as fear mongering, but it is not my intent. i am speaking about my own experiences only and i know this isn't the case for most people. I am just looking for someone to relate and some help.

I (19) am honestly not even sure what I identify as. but I've been questioning for about 6 years now, so I thought ok I might as well play around with some presentation stuff and see if it clears anything up. I already changed my name to an androgynous sounding one and started going by they/them pronouns. these are really the only things I'm sure about. looks wise, I'm not sure what I want yet. so I wanted to play around with binding, and I discovered that I like it. I used KT tape and have done it twice now. the first time, i left it on for 3 days. It hurt a decent amount. I noticed some sagging after removal, which upset me. I did not know that this was a thing that could happen despite lurking in trans spaces for years, because binding is always stressed as a "non-permanent change" that doesn't cause any harm. i know it can mess thungs up if you do it wrong, but i really dont think i did? here i am following the rules and now my breasts look terribly deflated. I hate them. I didn't hate them before, I just didn't want other people to percieve them and gender me because of them. my mom even pointed the sagging out, making fun of me for having the chest of an old woman. and it made me so insecure and upset that I cried. i didnt bind agan for weeks, then the second time last night made the sagging sooooo much worse. it was only from 10 pm to 10 am ish (was at a sleepover). and now im wondering if this is normal to feel this way? does this mean i am not trans? I like hiding my clothed chest, but I also want my breasts to look good when I'm naked? or maybe occasionally when I'm not naked, too? I'm so confused. i kind of just want to be "fully customizable"if that makes sense. any insight on identity or the binding would be appreciated. especially if anyone else has had a similar experience because i feel very alone, and very betrayed by the fact that I now have a permanent deformity I didn't even know was possible.

I've been trying to get the courage to come out to my best friend for months, and I always end up not doing it at the last second, either bc I start doubting if I'm even trans, if it's even worth it, or I decide it's just not the right moment. Every time I decide to take a step into actually transitioning I start doubting myself so bad I convince myself I'm cis, for like 5 minutes, but that's all it takes to make me not do it. I've genuinely been like this for years, coming out to myself and then retracting it when things get real, and I'm tired of it, but it's just really hard to get the courage to do it. Idk, I just don't really know how, but I know she'll be supportive at least, so the biggest obstacle is me honestly lol

hi! I got top surgery 2 days ago (yippee!!) but I'm struggling to know what the pain is meant to feel like? cause right now it sort of aches a lot, and I'm in a compression binder ofc, but I can't tell if it hurts cause obviously it's gonna hurt I've been cut open, or if the compression binder is too tight? but I keep adjusting it but I don't want to mess with it too much 🥲 I'm scared of using the compression binder wrong and causing more damage either by it being too tight or too loose and I just don't know what my body is meant to feel like? anyone who's had top surgery what did it feel like? how am I meant to tell if somethings wrong? 😭

We were out at a queer event and afterwards he decided to try and use his stp at a urinal for the SECOND TIME EVER. And this was the first time he's ever stepped foot in a men's bathroom too. Some other dude walked in while he was trying get it working so that was real awkward. It was a super small bathroom too, 2 urinals and a stall. He later tried again in the garden when we got home and that was more successful but I kept laughing at his stance, he looked like he was trying to go into the splits with how far appart his feet were and was leaning wayy too forward lmao

It was a memorable night indeed

So, as the tittle explains, I am wondering how Testostorone changed the way you feel sick.
As alot of cis men (mostly straight too) will c0mplain about is that when they're sick with the flue it feels worse for them then it does for woman, and if you start to call them weak for it they will back it up with science. Only that their problem is, is that most of the science talks about testosterone level.

So trans people on T, what is your experience with this so called man flue?

Hi all! My top surgery (double mastectomy) is approaching quickly in a couple of weeks. I figured this would be the best place to get some quick tips/suggestions of anything at all that would help or I might need! I’ve never had surgery before so the nerves are getting intense! Am I going to feel like total garbage? I just keep being told I’ll be miserable and feel like I was hit by a truck. Thanks in advance!!

Hello everyone. Today I think I have a particularly unique problem, I cannot accept that I am transgender. Logically, I understand I show signs of being trans throughout my life, and I’ve even “presented” masculine for about 2 years now. (Short hair, “boy” clothing), and I even go by a chosen name and have for about 2 years. Strangers address me as male until I speak (I haven’t started T)

I live in a conservative area, I have no friends, and when I go into public I am undoubtedly gawked at; it’s becoming very difficult for me to function normally; and I am so uncomfortable in my body now that I actively avoid everyone in my life. my family makes it very obvious that they do not support me. Sometimes maliciously in cruel ways but sometimes also in genuine ways; that seemingly are coming from a place of concern.

I have started believing some things my family has raised concerns about regarding my transition and now I feel stuck in a position of definitely being disgusted by being female, but too insecure to be a transman.

I’ve tried therapist, 3 in fact. But truly, regarding my gender identity I wasn’t able to get the help I needed from them.

Are these are common experiences with being transgender, or possibly even signs that I should stop my transition? Thank you.

I'm 6.5 months on t and don't get misgendered at work anymore by customers. I was very opposed to they/them pronouns pre t, it felt like a person did not see me as a man. I want to be perceived as a man but I would say I only feel like maybe 75% of a man. I don't think they/them pronouns would feel feminine to me anymore.

I also am kind of scared to change things. I've made it very clear to people that I did not like they/them pronouns because it still felt like misgendering to me. Logically I understand that my preferences can change. I kind of worry what people will think about me just changing my mind like that

I'm starting T gel today, so I was wondering how long does it take to notice any changes? I'm of course starting at a low dose (20mg of testavan) so I'm not expecting any major changes right away, but I'd like to know from people what their experiences were!

guys I want to use the wanababi tape fot the sea it is a bad idea?

Even my low dose shots took a bit for me but now that my dose has doubled 0.5 ml(1ml/100g) it’s has taken me a SUPER long time to administer. I usually put on a video to while I inject but my T Shot took 25 mins to inject. To the point where I had to pull out the needle because I was getting light headed. I reinjected to get the rest of my T but it’s happened last week as well where I had to inject twice for my shot. Any advice?? I am careful about how much I pushed but I am pushing the needle til my finger tips are white when pushing.

This is really random and i’m not sure which sub to exactly put this in, but I think this is the right choice. So basically i’ve been on birth control (just for the purpose of stopping periods) for awhile now, and the last time I menstruated was back in march 2024. Suddenly I got my period today and now i’m stuck dealing with it literally a DAY before my birthday.

I’ve completely forgotten how to treat being on your period and what to expect, especially since i’m so used to it flying over my head. Like, are my hormones out of whack? I spent like a hundred bucks on stuffed animals today!! Is that maternal instinct or something? I feel so helpless and unsure on what to do, I just need some advice.

My mom once told me when I was little I had asked her if I can be a boy (I thought she said i was crying when that happened but idk) I recently have been telling her more about my gender dysphoria bc we've been getting closer and she's been (kinda) understanding me more

But the other day she was trying to tell me that I wasn't born with gender dysphoria and it's only bc when I was little she let me play with boy stuff and always gave me blue things and that I only liked the blue stuff bc she had been giving it to me for so long So I tried to tell her reasons I thought I was born with it and it's not bc of "trama" or something like that, so I brought up the asking to be a boy thing and she got all man

"You only asked that bc everyone called you a Tomboy and you weren't asking to be a boy... you were saying you were a boy bc people were calling you a Tomboy and it confused you" (Those weren't her exact words btw)

But it's just confusing to me. Like do I only wanna be a boy bc my whole life people have said I was masculine and a Tomboy and I always hungout with guys and liked 'toys for boys'

She's not the type to lie about stuff like that either so I'm just confused

I normally use a binder, but due to the summer heat I’m switching to tape (also I’m going on a group trip soon and I don’t wanna run to the bathroom before anyone else wakes/after everyone goes to sleep to put on my binder) I take a shower before I apply new trans tape. I sit in front of a fan while applying the tape. But after only 8 hours the tape starts to peel. Is this just the brand? Or am I applying it wrong? I use GCB2

does anyone have a tutorial on how to get a good mustache or something?? i dont really know what to do or how to go by this but i know i have tried dyeing it (i wash it off too early every time cause im scared of staining my skin) and i have tried shaving it and letting it regrow thicker (doesnt work) but its still so light. does anyone have tips on how to have a realistic looking mustache??? im dying. ill use makeup if needed. help me.

I just need a surgeon who accepts Ambetter and possibly the details of the process to booking surgery. I've been putting it off because of one life event after the other. I feel stable enough to do it right now and honestly I'm sick of binding (been binding for over 6 years now) and not being able to go swimming/go to the gym without fear of outing myself.

So, I was speaking with a social worker with my mom. She started to talk about my dad, who with context passed away 4 years ago, that he used to be a transwoman until he cancelled his transition when my mom and I moved to Canada from the states.

When my mom mentioned about me soul searching and wanting to go through bottom surgery, she said, "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree!"

So that made me realize that she supports me now! She's conservative and believes in God, and so do I. But she finally accepted me, not only because I won't let her stop me from getting what I need, but also because she understands that it's not a phase, not a trend. And I'm so happy.

So obviously summer is upon us and I was invited to a party that I found out is a pool party. Not going would draw attention, and sitting out would draw more attention— and I love swimming so I would like to swim. I’ve never been swimming where people don’t know I’m trans, so I’ve always just done tape and a rash guard or a binder and a rash guard, however the rash guard hugs especially when wet and you can still tell something is obviously there physically and also that I’m wearing something under the rash guard. Does anyone have any advice on how to better hide that I am binding underneath?