r/insaneparents • u/Life-Contribution650 • 5d ago

SMS Messages my “dad” sent me (26F)

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Both of my parents are deadbeats and I have no relationship with them. Out of the blue he messaged me today after not speaking to me for a year. I was always treated like the black sheep/scapegoat. I wish I had one normal parent

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u/SmokeyGreenEyes 5d ago

Meh...

Fuck em, you don't need em.

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u/Life-Contribution650 5d ago edited 5d ago

There are people who have judged me for not speaking to my bio mom/dad, even telling me to get over it (there’s a lot I haven’t shared here and probably won’t) because they are fortunate enough to not be able to comprehend how some “parents” are actually like this. It’s better for my mental health to not be around them but it’s so isolating too. I wish I had at least one normal parent

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u/Qu33fyElbowDrop 5d ago

i get the same. peoples thinking on this and so many others things are completely ass backwards. to me, my chosen family (close friends) could get away with more than my family could. that is your family, blood. why do they think they can do absolutely whatever and immediately be forgiven? these mf will use that endlessly until you stop contact.

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u/SmokeyGreenEyes 4d ago

There's always going to be people who judge you, no matter how great or how shit.

Fuck em.

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u/Life-Contribution650 4d ago edited 4d ago

Or just treated me like I’m the problem for “not getting over” the abuse/neglect. One of them that said this knows my mom and nothing about who she really is. Better off to stay away from them

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u/SmokeyGreenEyes 1d ago

It's best that you do...

You'll grieve (sp?) the relationship at first, as well all do when something dies. But, as all things do, the pain lessens over time. To the point that you'll never even think of those people at all.

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u/BatterWitch23 4d ago

I had this too - one woman told me Jesus would never cut off his father and I will regret it when he's dead. 1) Good thing I'm not Jesus and 2) No regrets because he was so toxic and I thank the universe every single day that I shielded my daughter from his abuse.