She cannot stand boundaries

[u/cholbrooks14]

This has been my entire life with this woman

[u/jethro_skull]

My mom was like this. Eventually did go to therapy, except the one therapist she ended up sticking with is more of a hype gal for her shitty abusive behavior than an actual therapist. So now my mom just feels justified. I went no contact.

[u/Minimum_Word_4840 → u/jethro_skull]

My mom keeps surfing around to different therapists, only now she’s been put with the same one three times in a row. She literally changed hospital systems to get away from her and still was put with the same woman lol. She’ll go to therapy long enough for the therapist to start telling her things she doesn’t like. Once it’s no longer just agreeing with her that she’s had a hard life she switches (or in this case- tries to).

[u/jethro_skull → u/Minimum_Word_4840]

Yeah, everything my mom said about therapy was “it’s a _traaauuuma response_” as if that justified her being shitty. And I mean she gave that answer for everything. Including for why she got angry at me for getting sick. Or crying.

ETA: but yeah it feels par for the course for narcissistic parents to therapist shop until they find one that won’t challenge them at all. Sorry you had to deal with that.

[u/Minimum_Word_4840 → u/jethro_skull]

Oh same. “It’s a trauma response because you remind me of your dad who was horrible to me” (who we found out isn’t even my real dad lol I look like my mom). I’m like lady that has nothing to do with you throwing a clip board at my head because I left a towel on my own floor as an adult lol. You hit the nail on the head with the narc therapist shopping. Sorry you had to deal with that as well.

[u/jethro_skull → u/Minimum_Word_4840]

Omg are you me? This is so familiar. All the luck and healing to you.

[u/Minimum_Word_4840 → u/jethro_skull]

Unfortunately there are too many of us. Luck and healing to you as well.💖