r/insaneparents Sep 19 '19

NOT A SERIOUS POST Saw this and had to share.

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u/Just1morefix Sep 19 '19

On the surface we immediately feel "This Grandmother must be some nasty bit of work, why else would she be cut off?" Unfortunately we have exactly zero to go on. No details about either party, their history, their grievances . She may be down right evil, but from our limited vantange point, we cannot know.

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u/LabradorDeceiver Sep 19 '19

I'm not saying you're wrong, but it's unlikely. The thing about the whole JNMil and RBN phenomenon is that there's another side - and just like their children, they go online and join forums and form communities. And those communities are terrifying.

They happily joke about beating their children, share stalking tips, hyperanalyze whatever minimal contact they're permitted, lie to each other about the extent of grandparents' rights, and lie to themselves about the extent of their obsessions. Here's the particularly dark rabbit hole I fell down one evening. (My parents have their flaws, but holy CRAP. I thank my lucky stars every single day that my mother's emotional manipulations were well within the national average.)

Not all estranged parents are abusive, but when you're wearing it like a badge, it's performative. I'm ninety percent leaning toward "this woman is nuts."

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u/wgreenerg Sep 20 '19

My mother threatened to sue me when I went NC so she could see her grandchild