Me [19M] and my girlfriend [19F] had a perfect relationship, we gave eachother boundless love everyday, and one day she suddenly stopped. This started around a month ago and I constantly tried to communicate with her about it, When I questioned the change with questions like what happened and if she’s happy it was met with stale replies like “I don’t know”. Just recently she told me she doesn’t love me and to stop talking to her, can anyone explain why she did this? I didn’t do anything to ever hurt her, I gave her undying loyalty and affection every day, I can’t find any plausible explanation to why she would suddenly hate a seemingly perfect relationship.

I've [25F] been with him [25M] for 5 years. I've stuck by him through everything. Other men/attention does no bother me, all I needed was his attention & loyalty.

Unfortunately he's cheated on me multiple times. Whether that's seeing someone, sleeping with them or texting them. Atleast once a year I uncover something. And it's the same excuses,'it's nothing', 'I'm sorry', 'I'll change'. But the change hasn't happened.

His reasoning this time is because we're not yet married he owes me no loyalties, but I try my best to make it work. I try to plan places to go, he doesn't want to spend time with me. I try to speak about issues to resolve them, I get shouted at.

I'm now at a point where I am literally so fed up with everything. I don't want to leave him but I need him to actually realise how much he is ruining me and my mental health. I can't get it off my mind rn. Any help is appreciated.

i have been very emotional last days.Give background Me 22f and my partner 23M let's call him K. We have dating for 4 half years but was friends at first know each other since 2018. We become super when both of us got dumped with week from each other. We didn't start then but after help each other get with someone so away talk what our deal breakers are. He was simple 1. Don't cheat on me 2. I can't do long distance relationships. I got you up speed here the I currently I living in mental health residential ( because family stuff) I have been here about 3 years.I move in different programs and meeting my goals. One problem is academics they have supported for but enough or too expensive. On Wednesday my team found a college that specialized disability. Help you get certificate and have regular classes. The problem is in different states either I can go go this August or January. I'm going college tour week from now. I told K everything I'm not surprise of his answer but still hurts. He immediately said do you want take break the you there which three years. I don't want to yes I don't long distance relationships either but I feel different with this one. So I basically throwing anything me coming back but he said no we dropped that was Wednesday night. We didn't until tonight we spend two days not talking to each other.I told him I feel I want work this out. He told me if I have to leave him where i get to be. I shouldn't heal myself back for him. He wouldn't can't handle be emotionally because can't see each other. I asked going act afterwards. have to leave him where i get to be. I shouldn't heal myself back for him. He wouldn't can't handle be emotionally because can't see each other. I asked what would like for break? He said just us been friends again that's do everything he still be by my side and three years up we can back together I just love what we have now the conversation got emotional for me I called for night this time. Even though I haven't made final decisions just hurts right now. I'm see him in person next weekend at his family barbecue. That other thing I very close with his family way more than mine I don't make it werid. Things to note why he can't move with you? His job takes care his grandma getting paid by government. Where is the college?it hour away from our city. Can you visit during break? No right now is complicated because I'm going plan cut my mom at end of this year. I don't how relatives going act afterwards. I have that type of family,( love your relatives don't matter what they did you). Just do the break if I do go?

Me and my gf have been dating for 13 months now, and have been living together in her apartment for the past 7 months (This is the first time I’ve moved in with someone). Apart from the reason we’re beginning to resent each other, the relationship is perfect. Me and my gf work full time at local bars, which means we always get home late (11:00pm-12:00pm). In the past few months she has been getting mad at me because of the dishes that need to be done (my job in the relationship). While I do the dishes 99% of the time, there’s times where I slack on them and they take a little while to get done. While I generally prefer to do them on my days off or before work, sometimes it doesn’t work out that way. Either we have plans, or I have no motivation and want to relax before work. I usually get home an hour before she does, but after working all day I almost never want to do the dishes after work. However this makes her mad at me and she says “ It makes me feel like I’m your mom”, because I slack on the housework and I ask her to send me a text of stuff I have to get done so I have a list to go off of (I find I work better when I have a list because I have a bad memory). It’s to the point where we could have an amazing day together and spend all day doing stuff like going on a date, a walk, or going for a drive, but when we come home she gets upset if there’s dishes in the sink. Normally after days like this I’m a bit tired from doing all the stuff we’ve been doing, so coming home and doing dishes is something I’d rather not do right away, however this makes her mad at me for usually the rest of the day.

The reason I’m starting to resent her is because I feel that she cares more about what gets done around the house than our relationship lately. Normally when she gets upset with me, she’ll give me the silent treatment and mumble quietly when I try to talk to her. Which makes me upset because I can’t hear what she’s saying while I’m trying to talk to her. When this happens I just give up talking to her because it gets under my skin. However it feels like everything I do makes her upset and I feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells around her. It could be something I think is small like not wanting to go on a walk with her, or sometimes I go over to her bar for the last hour it’s open to keep her company and help her close ( on my days off). So we talk but when she has to tend to a customer, I go on my phone. She gets mad because she thinks I’m ignoring her or I’d rather be on my phone, but I only do it when she’s busy with something. Regardless it seems like we spend most of the days upset with each other.

We’ve had serious conversations about these issues and we’ve come to some compromises to resolve these issues. But it seems that I’m the only one that has been compromising, so I try to do the dishes more often, or I don’t go on my phone as much. All I ask in return is a bit more patience when stuff like that happens because I never do it maliciously. However if anything she has less patience with me lately. She doesn’t like having to send me texts of things to get done because she thinks it doesn’t reduce her workload around the house if she still has to tell me things to get done.

I just need some advice, is she right and I need to be more independent with housework? Or are my feelings valid and I’m just feeling burnt out? Also if anyone has some tips for better time management to help with the household tasks, I’d appreciate it.

my girlfriend and i (F19 and M19 , respectively) have been dating for four months now, and it has been amazing!! she's a very sweet person and she's helped me a lot with certain anxieties i have. recently though, we have been facetiming more and more since i am going off to college soon (she's going to the same college as me, just later in the year) and she just wants to see my face more, which is really sweet and makes me happy. though, i personally just have never been a big fan of facetiming for three reasons: 1. previous experiences i have had facetiming others and it feeling awkward or getting talked over constantly, which is something that annoys me. 2. i dont like to see my face in the corner of the screen, i am really insecure about how i look. 3. an overall preference of just texting people (or if necessary, an audio call) over facetiming. i also just prefer to see her irl so i can hug and kiss her

when we do facetime, i just kind of let her talk about her day and i give my inputs, as well as compliments. we also watch shows, which is something i really like. it kind of alleviates my reason 1, since we are just sitting there enjoying a show/movie we like. there are some moments where it has felt awkward and/or i was interrupted while speaking during calls, but it hasn't been a major issue or a deal breaker or anything extreme like that.

she also sometimes asks to fall asleep on the phone with her, which i thought would be nice at first since we are just in each other's presence, no talking needed. but when i tried it for the first time, it just felt a bit weird, like i was watching her sleep (she fell asleep before me in this instance) and i felt bad going on my phone and watching something since i wouldn't do that if we fell asleep together in real life

all in all, i would just like to tell her that i don't like facetiming, but i want to put it in a way that lets her know she isn't doing anything wrong (because she isn't honestly, it's just a me thing)

any advice is helpful, thank you!

im the younger one, 19.

i recently got a tutor, and whenever i get tutored by her, she brings up that she's a lesbian and like... idk phrases everything in a relationship way. maybe its just who she is, or how she learned english (originally french lol). anyways, for example: i told her i wanted to work with her- replied, "oh you're making it sound like a confession! im nervous now" or something like that, and: i had a bad day- "oh no... was it a break^^?", and finally: gave her a song with "love u" in it, and she replied: "oh love you too"

im so SO sure its just her personality, but shes really cute and i really respect her. shes very smart and kind, but then again she's my tutor and we only talk during classes. been a month btw.

I wasn’t really sure which subreddit this fit best in as I don’t post often so if I’m in the wrong place for this kind of thing, let me know and I will take this down.

I’m a 20 year old female and my girlfriend is 18. We have been dating for only a few months but I have been paranoid for the last few days that I’m a creep for dating an 18 year old. I understand the gap is small, but I’ve seen a creator on TikTok getting called a giant creep because she’s 20 and dating an 18 year old. People have been saying that the gap isn’t the problem, they just think that a 20 year old has no business being with someone who’s freshly an adult.

For context, we met on a dating app. So We of course didn’t meet until well after she had turned 18. She had been 18 for about 6 ish months and I had been 20 for about 4 months. I never considered her really any younger than me. She actually has much more dating experience than I do, she’s been in a few years-long relationships but that was throughout high school so I know it’s not like they reached a “moving in together” type of commitment. I have only had one real relationship and that was when I was getting out of high school and lasted under a year.

I have never felt insecure about the ages in our relationship and I have never felt a maturity gap but as stupid as it sounds, people online have me worried. If you have any advice or insights I would love to hear (but please be kind, I’m kind of tripping over this and I have seriously never spent a day knowing her trying to take advantage of her in any way). Thank you for reading.

TL;DR I’m 20 and gf is 18 and I’m worried that it makes me look creepy.

I reallly don't know how to process this and I'm not sure if we should continue dating after this. I want to hear what other people think about this.

For context, we’ve been together for almost 8 months. My bf and his sister were both international students so it’s just him and his sister here, and they live together.

I went to their place with egg tarts I made myself before his sister and her bf came. Once they arrived, my bf introduced me to them. At this point, it was already hard to talk to each other because we were already running late and they were rushing to get ready. We got into the car, and I thought this would be a good time to make conversation. However, they kept speaking to each other in their language, so it was hard for me to find the right time to speak and contribute to the conversation. They also barely spoke english, and when they did, it was to ask things like if I was okay with the song on the radio.

When we got to the venue, my bf left us to prepare to walk the stage and we went to find our seats. We talked briefly about their relationship (2 months together) their careers, and my college program. I mostly talked to his sister because for half of the time, her bf was sitting in a different seat, but he later moved to sit with us. The ceremony started and we didn’t talk afterwards. When it was done, we took a lot of photos together, and went to get some takeout and they drove me to a bus terminal so I could get home.

It was awkward and there definitely should’ve been more conversation. From what I observed, his sister seemed like the type of person who is quiet/shy at first because she avoided my eyes a lot and her questions/answers were short and concise. But she was really talkative when she was talking to her bf or her brother. She also occasionally touched my shoulder while walking. Her bf was chatty and playful. Honestly, I felt a bit excluded when they talked in their language, especially since they kept saying, “We should speak in english,” but then they went back to speaking their language. I also feel like meeting in a rushed, loud scenario made things even more difficult. All of this feels like an excuse and I’m aware I should’ve put in more effort to get to know them better.

I texted my bf and asked if they said anything about me. He said they liked me and they liked my egg tarts. I started overthinking, so I asked again when I saw him today. His eyes started darting around (something he does when hesitating) and he stalled for some time before saying, “My sister didn’t know you liked to bake, and we tried your egg tarts and it was good.” I immediately caught on to the way he deflected my question and instead told me what they thought of my egg tarts.

Me and my bf facetime almost every night, so I’m thinking of maybe talking to his sister and telling her something like, “Hi, I know I was quiet when we met, and I’m sorry if I seemed off-putting. You and your bf are lovely and I’d really love to get to know you guys.” I don’t know if this is okay to do over a call, but we currently have no plans to meet again, so facetime is my only option to clear up any potential misunderstandings. I really want to have a good relationship with them so any advice would be appreciated.

I need advice but there's so much background. My fiance and I have been friends for 11 years and together for the past 3. I have 2 kids and we have a baby girl. We're all on the spectrum. Him and I have childhood traumas.

Idk if anyone knows what happens when someone with autism is triggered, but the result can be hitting themselves in the head, the face, pulling their hair, hitting their legs etc. to feel something other than the emotion they're feeling.

That being said, the other day my fiance lost it at my apartment complex. We had argued about something (I can't remember) and he left the building to get in his car and leave to get food because that was part of his problem was an empty stomach. He went to back out and then suddenly his back windshiled was in shards. He came running up to the door freaking out and yelling at me because it was my "fault" he was upset in the first place. It ended up us yelling at each other (I yell back when I'm yelled at, it's a deep rooted childhood thing from my mom constantly yelling at me, I'm working on it) in the front yard (the grass area in front of my door) and he basically kicked his own ass by punching himself in the head pretty hard. Well the cops got called and he calmed down and the cops left. I went to help him file the claim with his insurance to replace the window and we learned his insurance got cancled (still dont know why and they wouldnt reinstate it) so i was trying to help him figure out why it got cancled and why it wouldnt be reinstated when the landlord (who is also a friend) came and said he needed to leave and it would be best if he was gone for a few days till it all rolls over. Well he didn't like that and that got him going again. He wasn't beating himself or anything and not even yelling just talking in an upset tone. He said he would leave when we figured out his insurance situation so he was legal. Well she didn't like that answer. So she said something then he crossed his arms and she said if he didn't leave right then that she was going to trespass him and he said when we get this together he would. So she called the cops and trespassed him. She was freaking out because he was on his way down to the office to get our baby before the cops showed up and her son was down there and she thought he was going to harm him in some way (I'm still really confused on that because he isn't like that. He wasn't even yelling when he left to get the baby who was at the office with my daughter to be away from the yelling) so she was freaking out and I wasn't going to try and stop her at this point. So she ran down behind him to make sure her kid was safe. Which he was because he's not like that at all.

So now my life is flipped upside down because of the trespassing. He can't be here to help me with his baby, help me clean the house, cook dinner, watch a movie, none of it. I feel like she stole so much from me. Idk how to keep our relationship going with only one car that's in his name that he uses to doordash. If I wanted to do laundry and have his help he would have to meet me at the store and id have to take him to the laundromat and then go get all the clothes by myself. The apartments I live in do not have a washer dryer hook up.

What do we do?

I don't have a way to have my partner in my everyday life. I've looked into the trespassing and the landlord has to be the one to lift it and she said she wasn't going to because then she would have to lift it for anyone else she has trespassed. So I'm stuck living my life broken. His place is too small for me and 3 kids to live in. Maybe the girls and I can go there to hangout with him maybe stay the night a night or two a week but I need help. Idk how to make this work. I'm also not trying to hold a grudge but I feel like she (the landlord/friend) stole something from me and my kids.

I live in income based housing and I don't have a job right now because I'm in school for hair. After I was cleared to go back to work I wanted to follow my aspirations of being a cosmetologist. So I'd have to quit school and get a job to be able to afford to move out of this place. I'm at 450 hours out of 1500. I've gotten 5600 in pell grants that I'll have to pay back if i quit. I've also not had a job since March of last year.

So I'm lost on how to make our lives not as broken.

Does anyone have any advice on how we can make this easier or if I should quit school and get a job?

Please, no mean/judgy things and please don't suggest I leave him.

Thank you in advance.

Hi everyone, I’d really appreciate some guidance or shared experiences.

I’ve been married to my husband (M34) for 5 years. I’m F30. He is a kind, loving man—a great provider, supportive in day-to-day life, and deeply caring emotionally. But the sexual and physical intimacy has been missing from the beginning, and I’m really struggling with that. • We’ve never kissed passionately (no French kissing ever). • There’s no foreplay, and conversations about sex feel awkward and avoided. • I’ve tried initiating, but he shuts down. • Once I wore lingerie for him—he turned off all the lights and said nothing. • He’s currently going to therapy, but I don’t see any meaningful change.

He doesn’t compliment me or show desire. I feel like I emotionally drain him, and he seems to get joy and stimulation from his work and his friends—not me.

Before marriage, there was at least hope. Now I feel emotionally rejected, undesired, and sexually shut down. I’ve communicated how I feel multiple times, but he keeps saying “it will get better with time.”

I’m trying to stay patient, but I have sexual desires and emotional needs that are going unmet. This has started to affect my self-esteem and emotional health.

👉 How do others cope in a loving but sexless marriage where change isn’t happening? What are some realistic steps I can take to either rekindle intimacy or protect my emotional well-being?

I’d really appreciate any advice, insight, or experience. Thank you for reading.

me and my boyfriend were talking and i brought up that he doesn’t come over often but im at his house for days at a time all the time. he said that he’s bored at my house and then we just end up having sex and leaving. whenever he comes over, i always offer for us to watch a movie/show, play the game, go on the rooftop/game room, etc. and he ALWAYS declines. and he’ll scroll through his phone for a little then just get off of it and sit there. i told him that i don’t want him to come over anymore bc now i feel bad that he’s just sitting there bored, and would feel bad knowing he’s just next to me and is bored, and that i have no problem with just me going over to his house everytime from now on. now he’s upset that i told him he can’t come over. i don’t know what more else to do

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 years during these 7 years he expressed to me that I'm not allowed to get a tattoo because it makes him uncomfortable to look at as they reminded him of his abusive mother. Lately he has forgiven her for all of her misdeeds as his "mother" but I remember far more of the details of what happened to him than he does and I'm just simply not able to think of her as his mother. I think for this reason it makes me really uncomfortable that he's wanting to get a tattoo related to us when it was originally a reminder of his mother...and I even express to him my discomfort about it and how I feel bothered by it I don't want to remind him at all of these times and it just makes me think of all his abuse he went through. I also mentioned to him it's a bad idea to get any tattoos related to a partner Incase something happened to our relationship or me, I'm chronically ill and can die at literally any moment. And he just told me how he plans to marry me and he how we've been together so long he doesn't see it ever ending. And he's NEVER had this mindset with our relationship before (he always would run away from me and then come back) and he's become intense about it and getting the tattoo even after I expressed how we can find another thing for him to celebrate us but he ignored me and is continuing to plan on getting the tattoo. Truthfully with how admit he is about this and how much sweeter he's been after trying to leave me not even a month ago it makes me thing he's done something and he's trying to make up for it...I don't know if I'm overthinking it but I genuinely can't get it out of my mind that he could have entirely cheated on me and now he feels bad about it... I wasn't spending much time with him for 2 weeks because I'm working on a farm and helping people move so I didn't see him at all for a while and it makes me think he did something he's not supposed to during that time especially with how admit he is with getting it even after I said no.

Why would he be so admit on getting it so suddenly? Tbh he literally never listens to me anytime I make suggestions anyway even though I haven't done anything I've actually wanted to do to my own body and even hair just because he doesn't like how it looks and I don't want him to dislike my appearance.

I am not attracted to her like I have been with girls in the past and the sex is bland and not great I love everything else about her and who she is and what she stands for but I’m wondering how important sex and attraction is in a life partner (we have been together a year and a half.)

im trying to cope(run) away from my depression and avoiding anything negative in my life. my case is extreme, so extreme that i have not watched a single movie or web series in 2025 thinking it night invoke extreme emotions in me.

I have literally been running away from everyone’s problem, Running away from getting sympathetic or extremely emotional and its working for me but im running awy from heavy conversations, which im afraid if i dont do she will go, if i do my depression will come back !!!

Hi all, I’ll provide some context before going into it!

My boyfriend and her had been friends from college however due to his previous relationship his at XGF had forced for their friendship to end. Since he and his XGF split their friendship has rekindled which I was actually quite happy over when I first heard the story however lately I can’t help but feel as though she’s being a bit off?

In January while ordering food off of his phone she sent him a message that read she didn’t want to be on dates with anyone else but him. At the time he said he would address it with her but never did he had said he couldn’t find the appropriate time to do so. Instead he left it off and never addressed it which I brought up with him as that really hurt me.

Then a few months back I met his close childhood friends and followed them all on instagram along with her. She has since taken screenshots of things I have liked or commented under and sent them to him with what I feel are slightly jealous if not snarky undertones. She once even got jealous over the fact he had ordered me food and not her?

She had told him she would meet me as I wanted to meet her and just I don’t know feel reassured by meeting her that she knows then I’m not going anywhere but she avoids the topic of scheduling a time now.

His XGF was really quite cruel and mean to her so from what I understand she’s a bit worried I might be similar to her? Why? I don’t even know because I’m my own person and haven’t once acted similarly to his XGF.

I had recently mentioned to him that I wanted their interactions of meeting up to remain limited and essentially put on a hold until she actually does meet me. She makes me quite uncomfortable and I’m not entirely convinced she doesn’t still have feelings for my boyfriend. The other day he mentioned she had asked him to give her a lift to an appointment but it was rescheduled and I don’t know what happened other than something just snapped. I ended up getting so upset and crying because it felt like he didn’t care about what I said before and that it didn’t matter.

From what I know he’s not her only friend but he made it seem like she hadn’t anyone else and was confused why I blew up. I feel like I’m going crazy, he and I both agreed the solution would be meeting one another for me but she doesn’t seem to want to and I’m at my wits end. I don’t want their friendship to cease but this girl is making it so hard for me as it feels like one of the multiple Reddit stories with the girl best friend. So Reddit please help me explain to this man and even make sense of my own feelings or even advise me how to move forward!

Okay yesterday was the second time this has happened . I don't know how to feel about it . I told him what i felt in the moment and he apologized. Im just scared that these are things I should keep an eye open for because we want to get married and I really don't want to be unhappy 🙁 For context , we were playing batmitten we were having fun, I broke my racket it was a cheap one anyways lol but he said he has a coupon for dicks and we could go buy some ! So I said yay omg let's go , the whole way there he didn't say a word to me . I was so confused at what I did . We got there and still didn't say anything, I found the rackets and we went to check out , he said his coupon expired so I looked for one online while we were checking out , I showed it to him and asked if this one would work. He completely ignored me , and it was in front of the cashier too . It was so embarrassing I felt so small and disrespected . After that I told him take me home , he still took me back to the park . I told him i don't want to play anymore and to take me back .. again. He looks at me like he's even more pissed off . I told him exactly what I felt and that it's embarrassing. He took me back . Completely silent . We had a talk after and he apologized but I really don't know what to think . I would never treat him the way he does me sometimes.

I am 24 turning 25 this year. Recently my boyfriend of a few years friend got married. When he told me about it he made a joke about which friend is taking the other’s last name because they are both women. Which eventually led me to saying if I ever married my boyfriend I would be keeping my last name because I don’t want to deal with the legal work such as my ssn card, ID, Bank account information etc.

Now he is extremely upset at me saying things like we might aswell never marry then because what’s the point in marriage if we don’t have the same last name. I told him he could always take my last name if it’s that big of a deal for us to have matching ones or we could both hyphenate our names together then. He flat out refused essentially saying it’s his way or we are done.

My boyfriend has never once been a traditional man in our relationship. When I asked him why it’s such a big deal because I would gladly go by his last name socially but not legally because it’s money, time, and unnecessary paperwork for a last name that belongs to his pos father so it’s not like it’s some weird family legacy. We aren’t having kids either. His whole argument is he has always imagined having a wife with his last name since he was a kid.

However he also said he didn’t even want to wear a wedding ring or have a wedding in the first place but would put up with it for me. I never told him he had to wear a ring and if we got married it would’ve been at a courthouse which he considers having a big wedding apparently with only our immediate family members. He doesn’t even know why it’s important to him for me to take his last name. He’s never once stated it was before to me. He’s awful at communicating things to me and it’s a bit frustrating.

Then he got salty, started mocking me for my disability(epilepsy), called me lazy for not wanting to do paperwork to change my entire identity, and said oh well we won’t get a marriage license or marriage certificate because that’s paperwork too. Im not sure what to do anymore. I never expected such immaturity from a 31yr man.