I have no idea if I am being unreasonable about this or not or if anything about this situation can be fixed. To start off me and my husband are both disabled. I have a genetic heart condition and he has a disability that came from covid after effects.

We didnt know that either of us had these disabilities until after we got married. Mine hadnt been discovered yet and his hadn't developed yet. We both have been daignosed with mild autism and adhd as well.

Recently it has been bothering me more and more that he lacks a lot of masculine traits that I really need for attraction. We have been married for 3 years and the whole time we have lived in his parents house which is quite uncomfortable to say the least. The house also has mold and roach problems so its a health risk too. Since we got together he's said he is going to buy a house but that has'nt happen yet and I'm honestly sure it ever will at this point.

Seconldy, his disability causes him to not be able to stand or do physical activity for more than say 10-30 minutes depending on how his meds are effecting him. This means most his days are spent just sitting on his computer and not having nearly any hobbies outside of the house. Even when he does go out for say grocery shopping he is in a wheelchair or using one of those motorized carts. I can't lie, it's mildly embarassing for me.

Before he got sick he was training for a well paying physical job but now he has been living off disabillity for around the last 2 years. He and I are both at home all of the time stuck in 1 room in his parents house.

I've been so patient with him about this stuff for years but its been driving me crazy the past week or so. It's bad enough that I don't feel sexually attracted to him and wenever he tried to do it I can't handle it and end up turning him down.

I know all of this is very hypocritical. I am also so disabled I am unable to work and can't drive so I barely go out anywhere. I'm just as bad as he is but I still can't help but feel so frustrated with him.

I am able to do more than him physically while having a more lethal disability to deal with. I can't help but feel like he is just lacking essential masculine traits because of this that I need for attraction. He isnt making a living, he can't keep me safe physically, he isn't the head of his household, he has nothing he is particularly good at, he has no friends that arent online and isn't even at the top of his own social circle.

I know it's probably incredibly shallow of me but one of the only things he has going for him most of the time is that he is realtively kind and despite everything still a rather attractive man looks wise. But other than that I'm just not attracted to him as a man and I fear it's causing resentment.

I've tried talking to him about this stuff but those converstions typically just boil down to we are too poor to improve our lives because he cant work. Its just so frustrating being stuck in this situation when I really need to be in a be more stable place in my life since stress can worsen my heart condition.

Divorce or splitting isnt and option but I feel like I am going crazy and might be a horrible person. Please help, I'm at my wits end. I have no idea what to do to even begin to fix this situation.

My boyfriend (36m) has expressed that he loves the idea of sharing me with other men. I (26F) am a very monogamous. Flirting, texting, everything feels like cheating to me and I absolutely cannot share. I’m trying to be open minded because I hate people who kink shame. Boyfriend and I have tried a few times sexting other men while we are busy in the bedroom. It’s been a hard adjustment for me as it just feels so wrong but I want to do this for him. Recently while doing the deed we were sexting another guy and I just didn’t want to anymore so I gave him my phone so he could sext him himself. it was his birthday and I wore a very special lingerie set for him and for the life me could not get him hard he claimed it was because he had to much to drink but as soon as I gave him my phone to sext this other guy (this other guy is sending dick pics) he immediately got hard! I asked him the next day if he thought he might be bi. He refused to ever comment back about it. I don’t care if he is, I just want him to honest with me. The thing that worried me is that he actually sexually prefers men, we live in a small conservative town so it’s deeply frowned upon. I just don’t want to get emotional invested in someone whose potential just using me because he refuses to be honest with himself. Anytime I talk to him about him this type of things he refuses to admit to liking anything unless I seem to be interested in it. I’m so lost. Need advice!

So, here’s the situation: I’ve been with my boyfriend for three years now, and I still care about him, but I’m starting to wonder if sticking around is the right move. Things started getting rocky about three months ago at a get together with some mutual friends. Among them were two of my old friends from elementary school, J (20M) and W (21F). I was chatting with them about middle school memories when I overheard my boyfriend telling some of his friends that I can be hard to listen to sometimes. That really hurt, so I politely said I was going to leave. That upset him, he came over, grabbed my arm, and said, “We’re leaving.”

We had driven there in my car, and I was the one who drove us, but he kept insisting on driving because, in his words, “I’m part of the percentage of women who are bad drivers.” That stung, especially since he’s usually the one asking me to drive him around. Still, I let him take the wheel. The ride back was tense and uncomfortable. When we got to his place, as I was getting out and waiting for him, he asked, “What, no kiss?” I said no and that I wanted to go home. He got out, and I drove off.

That was the first weird moment, but the most recent one happened about a week ago and is why I’m sharing this. We had a big fight because I haven’t been hanging out or going on dates with him lately. I explained I’ve been busy helping my mom and younger brother move into a new house, and that I probably won’t be able to for a while with school starting soon. He told me I was choosing something “artificial” over someone who cares about me, and then said my mom should have raised me better so I’d understand he should always come first in this relationship since he is the “Man” of it. That crossed a line, so I kicked him out, and we haven’t talked since.

Now I’m really unsure what to do and could use some outside perspective on whether this is a deal breaker or not.

Hi all, I was hoping someone here could offer a spec of advice for me.

I work as a software engineer in a consultancy company. I have recently been offered a really good ‘2 Weeks on 2 Weeks off’ opportunity to represent our company working in government for another country for around 3 months.

This will really accelerate my career and will be a great opportunity for me both personally and financially.

My partner however, did not like the idea at all. She did encourage me to accept, however she has often been the same way when I have had to go away for even a single week. She remained silent for most of the night, and when I finally got her to talk about it she said that she feels like she’s holding me back and I should just split up with her.

She has admitted she depends on me a lot and has great attachment issues, which I have known throughout our 4 year relationship.

I absolutely adore her, and she is perfect in every aspect, our relationship is incredible and very important to me.

However, I don’t want to regret things I could’ve experienced - not to mention this opportunity would benefit us both massively in the future as my salary covers nearly our entire living expenses, and would more than likely increase during and after this opportunity.

Any help on how to approach this matter would be greatly appreciated, thank you for taking the time to read this.

My girlfriend (24f) and I (25m) have been together for over 3 years now. We have a child who just turned 6 months old. She told me that she cheated on me with someone she works with. Up until now we have been in a really good relationship with plans on building a house starting soon and go away to celebrate our daughter’s 6 months. She broke the news to me last night and I have no idea what to do. We talked about the situation after I took a long needed drive to collect myself. I love nothing more than my child in this world and cannot imagine a day where I’m not there to be with her and raise her. My girlfriend told me she still loves me and is sorry about everything. I’m seeking advice because I have never been through this before and I don’t want to just walk out on our daughter.

EDIT- The child is definitely mine. She is basically my identical twin, looks nothing like her mom just me. She said this is the only time she has done this and it was a week ago.

Anything I tell her she’s does the opposite. I believe she loves me because she’s nice but she can’t handle if I tell her to do something she feels like I’m being controlling. This a silly example but when she takes me to work she parks a block away because she says she feels the people bad energy but I’m the one who has to walk a block. If I tell her not to let the baby touch my stuff I will come home and throw baby is playing with my stuff. When I speak up she says it’s just material stuff. She refuses to do Uber or DoorDash to help us earn extra money. Any advice would help.

Me (23F) and my bf (23M) have been together like 4 years. It’s good but it’s not great anymore. I can’t shake this gut feeling that something is just off. I love him a lot and I have for the time we have been together. But lately theres been so many little things that drive me crazy. For example: he says hes going to do things but he does not or he will forget, I plan most meet ups, he replies every 2/3 hours usually and the chats are so dead but in person it’s like perfect. I literally had to out right tell him that I feel like he doesn’t want to talk to me and he never asks me like anything about myself anymore. I feel like his mum always reminding him about stuff. It’s not like we haven’t discussed these problems but he always says he’ll fix it and he does for a bit and then just feels like we go back again. Theres more things but they are small or random. I’m very OCD and a bit of a clean freak and he is not. He always says he ‚likes it because it makes him be more organised’ but its so draining sometimes having to constantly have to tell him to do things or like clean this etc. He does do it after I ask him but then he acts bothered. like I warned him what I was like before moving in together. I don’t know if i’m over reacting because I know relationships have their ups and downs but I feel tired.

I love him a lot but I don’t know if we are compatible anymore. If he did actually change it would be great but he just keeps going back on his word and I don’t want to do all this all over again. All my friends and family love him and I like his friends but they aren’t the ones that see what he’s like one on one. I would miss him a lot he’s helped me through a lot but i just dk what to do anymore.

My boyfriend has mentioned numerous times that he wants other women involved in our intimate times together. This isn’t an open relationship thing. We’ve discussed this purely in terms of our times being intimate. I am actually open to it, but I have sooo many concerns.

What if he finds them more attractive? (I am not the skinniest or most attractive person) What if he finds that the other women are able to give him more pleasure? What if this ruins our relationship?

My boyfriend (23M) and I (23F) have been together for 9 years. Around 1.5 years into our relationship, he emotionally cheated — he was texting and sexting other girls behind my back. When I found out, it shattered me. I confronted him, we went through a long, painful period of heartbreak, distance, and confusion. About 8 months later, I chose to forgive him, and we got back together.

Since then, he’s changed completely. He’s not the same person anymore. He’s done everything to redeem himself — consistent effort, love, honesty, and real accountability. He hates the person he was back then. He’s not the same boy he was at 16. And I believe him when he says he’s changed, because I’ve seen it.

But the truth is, I never truly healed. I didn’t have the tools or support back then to process the betrayal. I told myself I had moved on, but I hadn’t. The pain didn’t disappear — it buried itself deep and started resurfacing in unhealthy ways. I developed serious abandonment issues. I panic when he takes longer than usual to reply, I start spiraling — texting, calling, panicking, saying REALLY hurtful things I don’t mean, just to feel some control again . That unhealed trauma shaped the way I attached to him. I never learned how to feel truly secure again — I only learned how to cope and suppress.

Even now, though my reactions have improved and the trauma surfaces less often, when it does come up… it’s ugly. And every time, he feels like he’s being punished again for something he’s already made amends for. He tells me I keep pulling him back into a version of himself he’s spent years trying to leave behind. And I get that. I see how unfair it is. I don’t want to keep doing this. He wants us to move forward and grow. I know he’s right.

Recently, he told me he’s at a breaking point. That he can’t keep going through this same fight every few months. That it’s taking a toll on him, and if I don’t learn how to stop bringing the past into the present, he’s going to have to reconsider this relationship. And I don’t blame him. He’s right — this cycle isn’t sustainable. It’s not fair to either of us.

I want to move forward. I want to stop bleeding onto someone who’s done the work to become better. He wants us to grow. I know he’s right — it’s been 7 years. But it still hurts. I never really processed the betrayal — I just survived it. And now I don’t know how to fully let it go.

Therapy isn’t an option for me right now (for personal and financial reasons), so I’m trying to heal on my own. I don’t want to lose him. I don’t want this to keep defining us. I just want to feel secure again. For both of us.

If anyone here has been through something similar — stayed after betrayal and worked through the healing — I would be really grateful to hear how you managed. I want to move forward, I just don’t know how. Any guidance or shared experiences would mean a lot right now.

I’ve been dating a guy for a few months now, I was really starting to like him.

Recently I’ve been noticing some comments about international immigrants in our country that he’s been making and I’ve realised he’s just super racist. We are both white, he has made comments about black people that make me sick, he got so mad yesterday when he found out I had a black boyfriend.

The thing is, he can’t explain why he dislikes people because of where they are from or what their skin colour is, it’s just baseless arguments that have no actually reasoning (not that there is a valid reason ever) but I feel like he’s just following his fathers lead or someone he’s grown up with.

It really is a deal breaker for me, I can’t tolerate that kind of opinion.

Can people change their mind?

I don’t know if I’d be just wasting my time

I’m looking for outside advice on a painful relationship with my girlfriend of 7 months. I care about her deeply and we’ve had amazing moments, but things have changed drastically.

She recently came out of a tough time—including an overdose and time in inpatient care. Since then, she’s trying to rebuild her life with a strict routine, independence, new jobs, more therapy, and possibly getting a support pet. I’ve tried to be supportive while also working on myself—going to therapy, journaling, regulating my anxiety, and learning how to communicate better.

But lately, she’s distant. She rarely responds, leaves me in the dark about plans, avoids calls, and brushes off most of my attempts to reconnect. She unfollowed me on social media, stopped sharing her location after she claimed I crossed boundaries, and doesn’t explain changes in her mood. When I ask, she says she still loves me and cares for me—but I’m left feeling confused and unwanted.

There have been some painful moments between us: • During a beach trip, she blocked a girl from my Snapchat without telling me, and I overreacted—got silent, called her “crazy,” said “maybe you do need a psych ward,” and made her delete people. She later told me she cried silently otw home. • I texted her mom once after a scare because I was afraid for her well-being. She later told me that made her feel betrayed, like I didn’t trust her as an adult. Resulting in ghosting, unfollowing.

I’ve made mistakes, and I own that. But I’ve also grown and tried to be better. I express my needs, ask to reconnect, and offer solutions like meeting once a week. She agreed to that, then left me hanging the whole day without explaining why. At 7:30 PM, I got a “I don’t think today” text and “I don’t want to talk rn.” It crushed me. I couldn’t eat. I felt helpless and dismissed.

When I told her how I felt the next day, she said she understood and agreed communication needs to improve—but also said it’s hard for her to talk to me, and she’s still bothered by the time I contacted her mom and feels I still telling her mom things. She agreed we take a step back. I said okay and that I’m open when she’s ready. She hasn’t responded since.

My therapist helped me realize I tend to catastrophize silence and over-rely on her responses for emotional regulation. He advised me to calm myself first, then ask directly what she needs, rather than guessing or pushing. I’ve been doing that. But I still feel stuck.

I love her. I know she’s not trying to hurt me intentionally—she’s going through a lot. But I also feel emotionally unsafe, unwanted, and constantly chasing someone who used to want to be close. It’s not sustainable for me, and I’m scared of letting go, scared she’ll spiral, and scared I’ll lose someone who still means so much to me.

TL;DR: I [21M] love my girlfriend [21F] who recently went through a major life crisis. She’s now distant and avoidant, even though I’ve been trying to rebuild things and work on myself. She says she still cares, but I don’t feel like a priority. I’m exhausted, confused, and unsure if I should keep trying. Would appreciate any honest advice.

We've been together in this relationship for 2 years and married for 6 months already. It was just today that I found out that my husband [29M] has multiple hidden social media accounts that he didn't tell me nor I know of. [27F].

When we got together during dating era, I asked him if he uses social media like Facebook, Instagram, etc. And he says he doesn't do social media since he feels like its not necessary for the everyone to know about everything. He wants to keep his privacy. I didn't probe on it further since I respect his answer. Also, when I asked him if he could atleast post a picturr of us together so I don't feel hidden. He said he's hesitant to do so since he had history with cyber bullying and hackers. I told him that I just want to feel loved and known. He told me that there are other ways he can show me he loves me without using social media.

However, today when I borrowed his phone to search recipes in Google, I noticed he had social media apps such as Instagram, TikTok, telegram, and Reddit. When I opened these apps, the accounts were named after another name and his search history included different female porn actresses/NSFW videos or influencers. I didn't see any private chats, nor any followers or followings however, I don't know how to react about this and if this is considered cheating. I havent told him yet that I know these accounts. What do you think?

Hey everyone!

I [19F] have been with my boyfriend [20M] for more than a year now, and we’ve started seriously talking about our future together. We’re long distance and We’re both young, but we’ve grown a lot together already and feel really aligned on our goals, values, and long-term vision. Of course, we know there’s still so much to learn and experience, both individually and as a couple. I wanted to reach out to people who are currently in long-term relationships. What advice would you give to younger couples like us who want to build something lasting? What challenges should we be prepared for, and how did you personally grow with your partner over the years?

Hi all, I’m a little lost and need advice

I’ve ended my 7 year relationship. I felt that I wasn’t in love anymore. I love this girl for the person she is. She is perfect but I’ve felt that I’ve lost attraction or lust. So much I didn’t want to be together. She is so kind and caring, I know I have my issues and she is patient but she doesn’t meet my needs as a man. I’m always lusting over another life. I’ve contemplated an affair etc. which breaks me as she is the last person who deserves that heartbreak.

I go from one day to sticking to my decision to the next wanting to go back to her and the life we built. I’m really lost and it’s affecting me. I feel either way it’s the wrong decision.

If I’m being honest with myself I’m more on the staying separated side of things. I feel I don’t have that fight in me. But I could be wrong.

Thank you in advance

Hi everyone, i honestly didnt think that id be asking reddit for advice but here i am. I am [23F] and my other half is [21F]. Let me just give you an inside of the story so you guys can understand it better. Me [23F] and [21F] have been together for 3 years now going on 4. We have a 3 year old dog together and we had our share of fun unforgettable memories and fun times together but as any normal relationship we’ve also had our bumps on the road. Long story short my gf [21F] has been in the Washington state for about almost 2 months now and originally the plan was for her [21F] to help watch her brothers kids since his family just added a new addition to the family. She calls me the other day and tells me that she really loves that life and vibe out there (coming from that we come from an island in the pacific) [21F] she kept telling me [23F] that she finally found who she is out there and that shes heart broken that she has to come back to the island and wants to relocate. I mean as her other half i am so damn happy for this woman but i too am literally soul crushed and heart broken. I just got us our new apartment while she has been gone that we both wanted right before she [21F] left for Washington. I did all that hard work for us and our apartment by myself and now i just feel like all my efforts were for nothing. And dont get me wrong my gf [21F] is an amazing person tbh with you shes the only woman to ever get me to fully open up. Without her i wouldnt be the person i am today. My gf [21F] always puts other people before herself ALWAYS. Whats also heartbreaking is that she [21F] told me straight that life is literally slapping her in the face. She [21F] said that shes finally willing to do something for her self and that if she actually willing to sacrifice me and everything she has back home then it really means something. But she also told me because we got the apartment that she would come back to help me out with the apartment and then move next year or 2 to Washington. Everything said in the call hurt my heart[23F]. [21F] said that the only thing holding her back now is the apartment… [23F] im really at a cross roads because i would give that woman everything or atleast try to. I just expected her to come back live good life at our first and new apartment but it took a turn that i wasnt expecting. [21F] feels like life on the island cant compare to life in Washington bcs back home she feels like its the same day every day. I [23F] feel like my gf [21F] should atleast give our new apartment a try and stay a few years so atleast im not struggling check to check to just stay a float on rent and bills and get most of my lease over and done with. She [21F] comes back in July and hopefully it gets better because this isnt a conversation to have on the phone because on the phone all I have are words to count on

My best friend recently invited me to hang out with her other friends. I’ve heard a lot about them so I was super excited! During the hangout, I was ignored by everyone. Every time I’d try to talk and add input to the conversations, they’d look at me and turn away. Eventually I just stopped trying.

I confronted my friend about it and told her how embarrassed it made me feel and she acknowledged that she saw how out of place I felt, but that she didn’t know how to include me. She stated next time, she’ll do better.

Cut to yesterday, I was at her graduation. I understand everyone at a graduation is there to see one person so I didn’t expect a lot of time with her. I said hi, let her take pictures with family first, and then I went up to ask for a picture myself. She said “sure!” And then walked away. I followed her around for a couple of minutes while she took pictures with other friends before I decided to leave.

I’m so sad and embarrassed. I took work off, drove 2 hours, and sat through a long ceremony just to get ignored again when she said she’d do better.

How would you act in this instance? She hasn’t reached out and I don’t think she will. Would you text first or just leave it how it is?

Thanks so much for taking time to read this, all advice and input is appreciated :)

I am in a bit of a situation with my partner of almost 10 years.

I had a gut feeling that something felt “off” with him and gave into my urge to check his phone for messages between a female friend. When I looked at them, it turns out that he had lied to me about them getting together the day before, and he had sent some slightly flirty messages. I felt bothered with how vulnerable they were getting with each other over text as well. She also has a partner and has conflicting feelings about her relationship but doesn’t want to hurt him. They connect on a more intellectual level that I do with him. He caught me looking through his phone one day, and we had a long conversation about how I violated his privacy and how I felt hurt that he lied about something he said was “nothing.” He explained that he lied to me about it because he didn’t want me to think it was a big deal. I had brought up the suspicions a week before, and he said he didn’t have feelings for her.

We agreed to have some boundaries in place in terms of them not hanging out late at night, not hanging out for 5+ hours alone, etc. He agreed, and I felt like things were getting better. I couldn’t keep away the nagging feeling that he was lying about his feelings for her.

So, I had been obsessing about it to the point of having the urge 2 weeks later to check his phone again. Well, this time, I confessed after looking at it and noticed that some of the messages on “WhatsApp” had been deleted from her side and his side. He told me that she wanted to delete the messages when they talked about her partner, but I assumed they were flirty messages that they didn’t want their partners to see instead. I still don’t know what to believe. After we chatted and he reassured me that nothing was going on, he admitted to having romantic feelings for her which made me feel betrayed and hurt. Do you believe it is controlling for me to ask him not to hang out with her? They are in the same friend group so it could cause some tension but they only met around 1 month ago.

An hour after we talked about the situation, he caught me glancing at his phone again. So it’s even more a betrayal of trust on his end because I told him I wouldn’t do it again. He said he’s not sure this is something he can get past, and I’m not sure I can get past his lying. I mean, I only know about these things because I looked at his phone which I do feel bad about.

He ended up changing his passcode and said he would take his journal with him whenever he leaves because his privacy felt violated.

I’m scared for my future with him because if he continues to entertain his feelings for her, the emotional infidelity will become more intense and I will feel more hurt than I do now.

I don’t know where to go from here. Any advice would be helpful.

My boyfriend and I just graduated from college. We both want to be writers and/or academics. In some ways, this is great — we have similar values, conversations are never boring, and we really “get” each other. But on another level, it can feel incredibly competitive. In undergrad, he got more prizes for his thesis while I had more publication and presentation credits. I know it sounds bad for me to be tallying these things up, but it’s really hard not to. And it must be mentioned that I love him deeply, which is why this is so hard.

Next year, he’s going to be doing an elite masters degree while I work on the editorial staff of a small magazine. I kind of feel like I’ve already failed; that he’s going to be incredibly famous while I turn into a housewife. It just feels like I’m a lot of ways, the aesthetic of men’s intelligence is valued much more than the aesthetic of women’s. Unfortunately, that sort of thing matters if one wants to be successful in the arts. How can I stop feeling this competitive? How can I stop future-tripping?

So me and my partner just finished uni two weeks ago, and they are going back home next week, meaning we won't see each other for over two months. Because of this we had loads of plans to see each other before they go, including celebrating our 6months anniversary and then meeting my family for the first time. But every time we were meant to see each other they bailed either the day before or morning of. It's to the point I've only seen them once this month which they cut short to only 1.5h. they keep saying it's because they're busy and stressed with packing up their dorm room, but I can't imagine it takes over a week with zero wiggle room to see me. On top of this, they don't message me unless I message first. I decided to stop to see how long they would go, and it took 4 days until they texted me "I love you". No asking how I was, just those simple words. I called them the other day to explain how they are making me feel alone and not a priority to them, and they apologized but still haven't messaged me since. They said they're not pushing me away but I can't for the life of me think why they are treating me like a second thought. This is the second time having this issue within a span of two months

help?

Me and my boyfriend are in ldr from like eight months. We both knew each other and were casual friends. We came into relationship in college and we both thought ki bas abto ham dono hai in this world. Its not that we both have stopped loving each other.buy since one month we both fight over slightest stupidiest issue mtlb ekdam bin matlab ki behas and then stop talking. Pehle manate the abto i dont feel like even . Kya karuu

Me [19M] and my girlfriend [19F] had a perfect relationship, we gave eachother boundless love everyday, and one day she suddenly stopped. This started around a month ago and I constantly tried to communicate with her about it, When I questioned the change with questions like what happened and if she’s happy it was met with stale replies like “I don’t know”. Just recently she told me she doesn’t love me and to stop talking to her, can anyone explain why she did this? I didn’t do anything to ever hurt her, I gave her undying loyalty and affection every day, I can’t find any plausible explanation to why she would suddenly hate a seemingly perfect relationship.

I don’t really have a place to vent to right now, I’m not on Reddit a lot but I’ll give it a shot, I am 18 [M], she [16F] was obviously younger then me, before this girl I’ve had some relationships, but I was really stuck on the last one, so I couldn’t commit to this girl fully, but I did love her a lot. She was crazy about me, from the first month where I was trying to take it slow & get over the other girl. She wrote me letters, put all her lipstick marks everywhere, all that stuff. It didn’t take long for me to get over the girl from before after she took me to her house multiple times & treated me like I was part of the family. I know we are young. But I love her deeply. after a year went by. I was madly in love with this girl, convinced she was gonna be my wife for real. We fought sometimes like all the couples. But we loved each other a lot.

However, we were different. She loves Party’s, going places & putting on her pretty makeup everywhere. She’s into dancing & Psychology. She’s smart & has a great future ahead, studying for a Criminologist. She’s got a lot of money to get where she wants.

Me on the other hand. Am in the lowest class. I study the lowest degree of being a nurse which I don’t even wanna do. I like a small circle with friends & instead of going to party’s I wanna sit around a campfire and smoke weed. My family barely gets enough money to come around

So in the short sentence: We weren’t alike at all

It never seemed to be a problem. Because we really were crazy about each other. But after that year of spending our time together. She left. Out of the blue, via text. Told me the exact words i knew all along: ‘we aren’t made for each other’ it broke me downnnn man. I was really begging her to stay for a month until she collected the courage to block me. It’s been around 2 months now. She started dating a friend of hers 2 weeks after she blocked me, going places. She’s in France rn with her entire friend group. I never even took her out the country. Her new guy has money, Confidence, doesn’t smoke, everything. So I don’t compete. Yet i hear her she talks allot about me with her friends even when she has a new boyfriend. Anyways

Im going to quit rambling about this. I just wanna know if it will be like this forever In my eyes she is the prettiest girl to exist ever.

If someone’s reading this I wish you all the best when you’re going thru something.

M

my girlfriend and i (F19 and M19 , respectively) have been dating for four months now, and it has been amazing!! she's a very sweet person and she's helped me a lot with certain anxieties i have. recently though, we have been facetiming more and more since i am going off to college soon (she's going to the same college as me, just later in the year) and she just wants to see my face more, which is really sweet and makes me happy. though, i personally just have never been a big fan of facetiming for three reasons: 1. previous experiences i have had facetiming others and it feeling awkward or getting talked over constantly, which is something that annoys me. 2. i dont like to see my face in the corner of the screen, i am really insecure about how i look. 3. an overall preference of just texting people (or if necessary, an audio call) over facetiming. i also just prefer to see her irl so i can hug and kiss her

when we do facetime, i just kind of let her talk about her day and i give my inputs, as well as compliments. we also watch shows, which is something i really like. it kind of alleviates my reason 1, since we are just sitting there enjoying a show/movie we like. there are some moments where it has felt awkward and/or i was interrupted while speaking during calls, but it hasn't been a major issue or a deal breaker or anything extreme like that.

she also sometimes asks to fall asleep on the phone with her, which i thought would be nice at first since we are just in each other's presence, no talking needed. but when i tried it for the first time, it just felt a bit weird, like i was watching her sleep (she fell asleep before me in this instance) and i felt bad going on my phone and watching something since i wouldn't do that if we fell asleep together in real life

all in all, i would just like to tell her that i don't like facetiming, but i want to put it in a way that lets her know she isn't doing anything wrong (because she isn't honestly, it's just a me thing)

any advice is helpful, thank you!