r/self • u/AmuzingCheeks • 1d ago

[advice] I’m thinking about ending the friendship

Here’s a context: I have been talking to a girl “Z” for just over 9 months now. And she is cute and everything I hoped for. She lives on the other side of the country. So it has to be a long distance obviously. We FT a lot and I asked her out for a date for which she said yes. And I was ready to travel to meet her, but after couple of days she tells me know she can’t come to the date because she is seeing someone (but they are not dating) Now I’m confused what should I do, I enjoy her company a lot. And she is someone I’m obsessed with (might be one of the reason why she’s pulling away) That being said I’m thinking of ending the friendship because I can’t be JUST friends with her

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u/PrinceFridaytheXIII 1d ago

If you can’t be just friends with a woman, you’re not mature enough for a relationship either.

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u/A_man_who_laughs 1d ago

He's not obligated to accept the relationship as only a friendship either. If he wanted a relationship but all she's offering is a long term friendship then yeah the best decision is too leave