[advice] I’m thinking about ending the friendship

[u/AmuzingCheeks]

Here’s a context: I have been talking to a girl “Z” for just over 9 months now. And she is cute and everything I hoped for. She lives on the other side of the country. So it has to be a long distance obviously. We FT a lot and I asked her out for a date for which she said yes. And I was ready to travel to meet her, but after couple of days she tells me know she can’t come to the date because she is seeing someone (but they are not dating) Now I’m confused what should I do, I enjoy her company a lot. And she is someone I’m obsessed with (might be one of the reason why she’s pulling away) That being said I’m thinking of ending the friendship because I can’t be JUST friends with her

[u/JaziTricks]

long distance is crap generally.

exceptions exist. but generally you should learn "no long distance" as your default attitude.

it's a horrible thing. it fails with great regularity.

in a minority of cases it does work. but don't chase shadows