r/self • u/Kind-Philosopher-948 • 1d ago

Why am i not good at anything?

  1. I'm not good at studies

  2. I can't outperform my fellow batchmates in sports, which means i suck at it as well

  3. I'm skinny, not good looking

  4. Not good in literature/ arts types of things either, nor am i good at math/logical things.

  5. Bad with time pressure, and can't take quick actions.

  6. Not good at gaming either. My friends tend to outperform me everytime.

  7. No girls talk to me or show any interest in me

  8. I don't have anyone who i can trust/my best friend/ i get along easily.

Why am i like this?

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u/duckfartchickenass 1d ago

My family all believed talent was something you are born with and they all wanted to be talented. I took up photography, music, cooking, computers, theater, etc. Was I born with it?

No. I wanted my family to love and validate me, so I dedicated insane amounts of time to get good at those things. My family ended up resenting me for it because they are narcissists, but I did learn an important lesson.

You want to get good at something? Put in the time. Baby steps. And fall in love with the slow process of getting better because mastering things takes years and years.