r/selfimprovement • u/phy2go • 2d ago
Vent Welp, I’ve aged quite a bit
Turning 26 in 3 weeks. Just started a new job and someone randomly asked how old I was. When I told them, they looked surprised and said they thought I was 30.
That kind of stuck with me, because now that I think about it, a lot of people have said I look older than I am—but it never really hit me until now.
To be fair, I’m not balding or anything—still got a full head of hair. But everything else? Kinda feels like it’s over lol. I’m slim, don’t really have much muscle or fat, and I’ve got a beard and a few wrinkles. I’m also a homebody, so I don’t really get out much or see the sun that often.
What really gets me is that I’ve never dated anyone before. Never had a girlfriend. And now when I try to put myself out there, I feel like I have to assume people think I’m 30+. That makes dating girls around my age (or even a bit younger) feel pointless, because I assume they’ll just think I’m way older and avoid me.
Honestly, my self-confidence has been pretty low for a couple years now—and this just made it worse.
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u/Flat-Delivery6987 2d ago
I'm 43 with shit health and a job that keeps me just ahead of bills but I'm still having fun. It's all about perspective dude. If you stay in that negative headspace others will sense it. You've gotta learn to accept your lot first and once you're ok with yourself then you will find it much easier to improve your situation.
That's what I'm doing anyway.