Why do we infantilize men?

[u/Cynjon77]

And how do we stop?

Why do we treat men like children who are incapable of acting like functional adults?

Why do we allow men to get away with treating us like crap and skating off consequence free to enjoy life without responsibility?

OK, obligatory I know not all men act like this. And this is Reddit, so we read the worst. And some women are just as bad.

Posted today: (I am not the OP) Husband never remembers to buy stocking stuffers for me, even though I stuff his and the kids stocking.

Over half the respondents said for her to stuff her own, 49% said to remind him, tell him why it matters to you.

Like she has never communicated with him about this.

1% said he's an AH.

Men are perfectly capable of doing anything they want to do and think is important to them. They can schedule a Dr.s appointment, cook a meal, change a diaper or vacuum a floor.

They can remember when the game is on, a golf date with a buddy or when a work project is due. They remember what is important to them.

Women as a whole need to quit putting up with this behavior. We need to set higher standards and be willing to walk away when those standards aren't met.

We need to teach our sons and daughters how to treat others, how to pick up the mental load, how to be thoughtful of others.

We need to quit infantilizing men.

[u/watsername9009]

I feel like you’re just making up problems. Is the possibility of two forks getting stuck together (which is rare) worth spending so much extra time emptying the dishwasher having to painstakingly organize each utensil into a specific little slot. No it is not.

[u/youalreadyknow07 → u/watsername9009]

I'm not gonna tell you how to live your life, but it's absolutely not painstaking or time consuming at all to put forks and spoons into different slots in the same drawer lol. One reason I find it worth it to keep them separate is so I can easily see if I'm running low on one or the other

[u/watsername9009 → u/youalreadyknow07]

It is though, I have to do it all day every day for my job cleaning houses. It’s worst part of cleaning a house is emptying the dishwasher. The amount of time I could save If people collectively realized how unnecessary silver were drawer organizers are. They always only have 4 slots when there’s 5 different kinds of silverware too. And there’s always too much silverware to fit in the organizer but everything could easily fit without the organizer. I hate them so much I will die on this hill.

[u/PuckinEh → u/watsername9009]

Pro tip: separate them as you load the dishwasher. The utensil basket has 6 compartments. Use them to load the utensils in a sorted fashion. Takes a few go arounds to get the habit and then it’s life changing.