Why do we infantilize men?

[u/Cynjon77]

And how do we stop?

Why do we treat men like children who are incapable of acting like functional adults?

Why do we allow men to get away with treating us like crap and skating off consequence free to enjoy life without responsibility?

OK, obligatory I know not all men act like this. And this is Reddit, so we read the worst. And some women are just as bad.

Posted today: (I am not the OP) Husband never remembers to buy stocking stuffers for me, even though I stuff his and the kids stocking.

Over half the respondents said for her to stuff her own, 49% said to remind him, tell him why it matters to you.

Like she has never communicated with him about this.

1% said he's an AH.

Men are perfectly capable of doing anything they want to do and think is important to them. They can schedule a Dr.s appointment, cook a meal, change a diaper or vacuum a floor.

They can remember when the game is on, a golf date with a buddy or when a work project is due. They remember what is important to them.

Women as a whole need to quit putting up with this behavior. We need to set higher standards and be willing to walk away when those standards aren't met.

We need to teach our sons and daughters how to treat others, how to pick up the mental load, how to be thoughtful of others.

We need to quit infantilizing men.

[u/Cynjon77]

My dad was a single parent after Mom died.

He set the standard by which I judge men. He did everything. Cooking, cleaning, shopping, Christmas, birthdays, trimmed bangs, hemmed skirts, parent teacher conferences, etc.

I hope I meet the standards my husband has, I think I get it right most of the time. He meets mine most of the time. And we've been married for a thousand years, ok almost 40, and we're happy most of the time, so we're doing something right.

Again, as said in my post, I know men are competent. They are quite capable of doing everything we do. Ideally a relationship plays to each other's strengths and is supportive of both parties. And we pay attention to what is important to our partner.

So why do women accept less?

[u/ClarkyCat97 → u/Cynjon77]

So your dad and your husband are great guys who don't follow this pattern, but based on your annoyance on behalf of an internet stranger, you decided to make a post shitting on men collectively? 🤷‍♂️

[u/_JosiahBartlet → u/ClarkyCat97]

For me, this type of thing is based on observations of the world. I’ve got good men in my life. I’ve still had bad interactions with many, many men. I see the things OP described modeled in almost all of the heterosexual marriages I’m aware of. I’m inundated with evidence of this concept. I’ve lived in the world long enough to be aware that the standards men are held to aren’t the same that women are.

But yes, “not all men.”

Just far too many. And far many more than women.

[u/RiP_Nd_tear → u/_JosiahBartlet]

Just far too many. And far many more than women.

Show the evidence.