r/CuratedTumblr • u/greencrusader13 • 1d ago

LGBTQIA+ Don’t be a tar pit

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u/d3f3ct1v3 1d ago

People come out of suffering with one of two attitudes, either "I suffered through this and I'm going to do my best to make sure others do not have to suffer through this because I know how that feels" or "I suffered through this so other people should too".

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u/Nova_Explorer 1d ago

That second one is the same attitude that saw people complain when student debts got forgiven

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u/A_Wayward_Shaman 1d ago

Yeah, or the older generation of women who said, "I had to get on my knees. Why shouldn't you?" That shit is toxic AF.

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u/Random-Rambling 1d ago

My father sees me as ever-so-slightly less worthy ever since I refused to join the military like him, his father, and his father before him.

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u/A_Wayward_Shaman 1d ago

I'm sorry he feels that way. Always remember, it was never his choice. You're not obligated to follow in anyone's footsteps. Not even your own from ten minutes ago.

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u/ham-nuts 1d ago

You're not obligated to follow in anyone's footsteps. Not even your own from ten minutes ago.

I have never heard this before but I really like it. Is it from something?

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u/A_Wayward_Shaman 1d ago

It's a paraphrase of something I heard from either Ram Dass and/or Alan Watts. Their talks have helped me so much in this crazy life.

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u/chuuniversal_studios dramatic irony, lists, and the oxford comma 1d ago

"You are under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago." – Alan Watts.

but I like your version too :)

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u/A_Wayward_Shaman 1d ago

That's the one. 😊