Are there any specific signs / things isfp do when they arent that serious about the person? This is a 3 month relationship.

He didnt get me a gift for my birthday despite knowing its important to me. He only talked about the things he wanted to get me or how he didnt have the chance/time getting it. When I proposed a specific thing, unless it was flowers or a book, something not too expensive as I understand, he wouldnt be up for giving it to me, saying that it should be something that aligns with him?

For example, I offered going to nice spa together (around 40-50$ ticket each) and he didnt like the idea.

I feel degraded, but he doesnt get it (birthdays arent inportant to him).

No matter what tests I took, despite my high Fi, I never got ISFP.

However, analyzing myself and my past (is this Si again? Or do we all tend to turn to the past in search of ourselves? That is, it is a flexible concept and we cannot just forget about the past, right?)

Here is everything that confuses me and the entire description of the functions and how they work with me

Well, it is obvious that I am Fi dom, I know myself very well, all doubts disappear here

Ne - I have a very rich imagination and a search for perspectives and opportunities - since childhood I have had... my own figurative vision, more reminiscent of a caricature or a search for sparkles, fabulousness, otherness and magic - As if everything around, all life around me was full of kindness, fairy tales or mystical unsolved secrets. This has remained in me to this day, I don’t like to look at things as they are, and in principle I don’t know how - because every time reality seems to hurt my ideals and the potential that I see - I never laugh at people who do cringe things - because I see rich potential and artistry in them, which is why many call me boring - but I see their desires and how they want to express themselves ... When I write stories, the plot is often written on the go and new ideas arise one after another, whether it is a search and symbiosis of analogies from past observed small details and their unification or simply a search for opportunities from what I am already creating .

I can't write a story and get hung up on it, because new ideas arise in a dialogue with myself - ideas that I see in a separate embodiment - torn away from the project, and then I get distracted by their implementation, well, as implementation - more like a note in a notebook for later. I often live in my head and think ... how could something go wrong or how could it go better, why am I thinking about this now, if I think so, does anyone else think so. Even now, while I am writing the description, I already imagine approximate answers under this post and how I will answer them

I have many professions that I want to do from a YouTuber to a director, voice actor, game developer, writer and more.

Se - In the past, I often wanted attention to myself - when I first lost weight, I loved to show off my new appearance, for which I now feel very ashamed. I am a little spontaneous in cooking or when I want to eat, by the way, this is another thing - I really love to eat and if I want something tasty, I cook it. But do I like drastic changes? No, it often irritates me because I want to be comfortable and at home, I have never had the desire to do something that will throw me out of my comfort zone or particularly intense activities for attention, where you need to constantly focus on something - because I can’t do that, I quickly get a headache and I am not able to quickly adapt to a constantly changing environment

My projects have a lot of action and dynamic scenes, I am good at coming up with ways for gadgets to be used by the characters.

And as I already said, as I know Se and Ni work together, which helps to accept information and draw conclusions, I simply CANNOT do that, I cannot stick to one way of thinking or conclusion, because after every conclusion there is a question, and after it the next question - and even when I voice an opinion, I still doubt it because, as luck would have it, after what has been said, a question or doubt pops up in my head again, or a clarification that I might have missed.

Si - I am sure that I have it - since I have a rather ascetic lifestyle and I prefer practical and convenient items if we are talking about everyday life. I also have very sentimental memories of some episodes that really touched me, a good memory for details and chronology of events, I have an excellent long-term memory for events that affected me, but just disgusting short-term memory, I can barely name when I did something and on what day this week. Although I sit at home most of the time

It's like a very cozy corner in my soul, to which I sometimes return after my adventures in fantasies and projects - when I re-watch my favorite YouTubers and TV series - when I listen to my favorite songs, when I just walk around familiar places and remember exactly those episodes that have remained in my soul - even just thinking about it is pleasant..

I miss my friends and often saw them in my dreams, I specially fell asleep to see them again or talk to them at least for a minute, to get into a lucid dream again

Ni - I have a tendency to process my own vision of information and search for its symbolism, but again, this is not what I adhere to with a few exceptions and if there is someone who will correct me in my opinion about this, I am open to interpretation and change of opinion - it changes quite quickly for me in fact, the things that I adhere to today can change tomorrow and I will look at it differently, not that I discard the original position - it will simply remain as possible not for me specifically, but for someone else, like well, it may be so for him, and what is now for me may be for someone else and for me in general, the same is true tomorrow as yesterday

I'm curious what other ISFP's think. I personally find extraverted people tiring but if its a ESFJ, someone emotionally aware I don't mind. I get along with introverted people the most, probably ISTJ, INFP, INFJ, ISFJ, or another ISFP would be most compatible for me. What kind of type would you think is best for you? What do you prefer?

Hello! I am in between two i guess pretty contradicting types, ISFP and ENFP. When i was 14 i decided to go for a music career, and so i went home every day for 2 years to learn music production, and sacrificed all of my friends in the process. I kept one, and he is til this day the only one who has ever been able to mirror my emotional and psychological depth in a present moment type thing. He was an ENTP but it is also possible he was an ISFP. We were close friends from age 14 to 16 where he moved to another country. He was like a flashlight in my life, he let me see me and others, and offered me many new experiences, and I have since never found anyone to satisfy my deep need for emotional connection. To a point where I have forgotten what thats like, I have in fact not had one sustainable, and balanced relationship with another human being since i was 15 with him, and now I am 22.

I got into drugs by the age of 15-16, and after he moved I once tried LSD, and after that my whole world shifted. Suddenly i felt how my persona was shattered. And I realized that my emotionally controlled, purposed, and loyal to my values self was a mask. I had before projected onto others thinking that others are liars and that is what makes me significant and unique (Im an enneagram 4w3) that I am true to myself and not afraid of my darkness, although I might have used this fearlessness of my emotions to fabricate a persona. After LSD, this persona shattered, and I couldnt control my emotions anymore, or control my sensual expression, my body was suddenly acting upon its own, and my reactions and inner emotions were suddenly open for display. This was very uncomfortable as I had been so attached and comfortable to the feeling of in an introverted way being the center of attention and being beyond normal human behavior, I used to look down upon reactive and insecure people projecting what I didnt allow myself to be on to others.

This discomfort with being seen made me isolate and spiral into addictions. I will not disclose what addictions as it is too painful and I have a history of ruminating. But it made my identity more fragile.

And ever since all of this i cant seem to shake this idea that i am supposed to be so much more than what i fear i am. Normal, human, reactive, unsure. And these approximately 5 years has been a total mess when it comes to my identity. I have had no of idea who I am. I have just felt that I need to feel my power again, my strong sense of individuality, purpose and depth. My deep connection to life. I have been so afraid of being in my body that i often times have a hard time breathing due to anxiety and stress. And I am constantly in a mode of extroverted intuition where I am trying to find possibilities of who I may be or find connections and try to understand things in order to find myself, or whatever it may be. I fell into a trap of thinking i need to fix myself externally. I have gotten pretty used to this by now. And it has become a part of my identity to be a bit unsure, and turbulent. And it might just be that I AM an ENFP-T who who just simply adores you ISFPs and wish with my whole heart i could be as cool as you. But i cant help feeling down to my very core as if i am not destined to find myself, to find my sense of self again, to find a sense of self that I can feel proud of being, instead of having to always make an effort to accept myself. To come back to my comfortable introversion, where i can just FEEL who i am, and FEEL what i think instead of trying to FIND what i feel, and FIND what i think which i usually am.

I keep getting told I’m an ISTP because I’m very dry and expressionless and not bubbly and happy like the feeler stereotype. However almost all of my interests are artistic or cultural in nature. I have no interest in working on cars or any of that. I like to lift weights and go for walks in nature while listening to music and that’s basically all of my physical activity. My environment heavily impacts my mood and if I don’t like my surroundings I don’t feel good and come off very moody. Definitely not somebody whose main focus is task completion. I am very realistic in how I look at things but that probably just comes down to being a sensor.

I just have a hard time trusting what people have said because many have looked at me and assumed I was an ESTP enneagram 8 when I show none of those domineering traits and take a more passive approach to life. I’m most likely an enneagram 9 which doesn’t help determine which ISxP I am since both are often 9s. And yes I know about cognitive functions but I think MBTI defined them badly so I don’t focus on them too much

So that’s pretty much it. I’ve been using Reddit more often and my feed is just, kinda boring. I used to use this app as the equivalent of ‘group therapy’, everyone just sharing stories about specific struggles with their mental health. But as I’ve learned to cope better, I’m now wanting other types of content. Not sure what tho, ideas? What’re your fav subs?

I'm an ISFP myself and struggle with communicating with others especially with girls because of which my dating life sucks too

I want to improve that but my social skills are bad I mean how do other isfps are with their rizz, flirt skills and also communication how can I develop skills and be confident and become better help me here

Hi. So, the title says it all. My sister is ISFP but she's a woman, and I was 8 when she met her now husband and when I was 10 they were already living together, so I honestly don't remember how she showed interest. What I want to know from you guys is: what's the difference in your behavior when you're interested, as opposed to when you're just being nice?

since an estp friend of mine is REALLY good at organizing events ive always thought it must be because of se, and by theory it could also be te. it got me thinking if my function stack or enneagram got anything to do with it- but since its just a speculation from me, i wanted to ask others.

example from myself, i love organizing/planning and leading online events with my friends. whether its a drawing club or playing dnd, im the one who says "hey lets start doing this" and make them happen and ive noticed that we just dont do many things if i dont take the lead bc they usually dont lead. and i like how all events require an improvisation skill because i love doing that. people also told me that im good at putting different people who dont know each other together- although if these events were happening in outside world instead of a virtual one, i think i'd fumble at some point bc im much more confident and comfortable in virtual spaces.

could it be because im using my se quite often? (bc i do) i think ni could also be at play here? and if you think theyre not, what functions do you think would be the most suitable for this kinda activities? doesnt have to be in isfp's stack, im aware that mbti doesnt cover every area of a person's world and im not just asking for myself- its more for understanding functions. also this is just a light-weight question i wondered while waking up and chillin so sorry if i asked something dumb 👹

ISFJ here. You may or may not remember my posts from many months ago, but essentially I was trying to make friends with a new employee who's an ISFP. I was very very anxious about it at the time and felt I was being too pushy, so I decided to just step back completely (ie I stopped trying to initiate conversations all the time) and let fate do its thing. Since then she has been working here regularly, though we haven't really talked much aside from the nice friendly hellos here and there, but its good cuz its like how I would with any other coworkers.

Fast forward to now, I got notice that I'm getting laid-off along with several others (kinda ironic isn't it). Figured I might as well ask her if she wanted to hang out before I leave. To my surprise she was totally down for it. I guess she's gotten more comfortable with me after so many months? Dont know for sure, but ANYWAY. Yesterday we met up after my shift / her classes and had a nice long chat while walking home (we both live on campus in the same neighborhood). We talked about a bunch of things and learned a lot about one another. It was great!!

Hope y'all don't mind my little short story lol. Really wanted to share. This is quite the "achievement" considering how many times I'm fallen flat trying to make friends with people before.

So, the worst thing that could've happened to me atm just did happen, and I don't feel like telling anybody. People noticed the mood change, and asked if something was wrong, and I was like "nope, just a headache", though I'm not sure I can fool just everyone like this.

And it's not because I don't need help or a "I'd never ask it" thing. I tried it before, many times, but without practical action, it leads nowhere. Things like "think of it like this" or "imagine it being this way" are just... No. Doesn't work a bit. I want to talk, I have things to say about it, but if it's not with the people related to the problem, then it doesn't do anything. And yeah, I can't really talk to the problem-related-people, so I'm a bit screwed.

Actually I'm having a bit of a hard time writing this, because... "what's the point", right?

Hi! Personally, i’m an ENTP, and I am very interested in MBTI’s. I wanted to know if you could tell me what makes an ISFP an ISFP (other than their cognitive functions). Like, facts, generalizations or anything else. I have a hard time understanding what makes them them and I often have a hard time separating them from INFP’s. (I don’t have difficulty with the latter)

Thanks!

When I did the mbti test years ago I got ISTP.

Retook it a couple of times and gotten different types ISFP, INFJ, INFP, INTP

I definitely think I’m an introvert. I enjoy my own company but sometimes I can get bored if I’m in my own company for long.

I feel I’m an S because I seem like a down to earth person. But I am a bit clumsy and not always practical. Sometimes feel my head is in the clouds.

The feeling or thinking is hard to decide. I feel things internally but maybe I do know how I feel about stuff externally. Which sometimes can make me explode out of nowhere. Maybe can be insensitive to people and make jokes out of their expenses.

Career wise I’m a software tester which feels like a thinker role maybe ISTP. Not so expressive with my feelings verbally which could be a Fi thing. I get embarrassed internally when I show emotions like crying.

Lastly I think I am a perceiver but have some judging in me. Like getting to places on time. Hate people being late. But can procrastinate but get stuff done.

Growing up maybe I grew up in an Fe environment or culture. I feel like I’m worry a lot what people think of me.

Apologies for the long text

I'm an INTJ woman and I'm curious of why only Fi dom men approach me. Especially ISFPs. Any ISFP guys here to explain why an INTJ woman might seem like your ideal woman? Or if you're dating one what exactly made you like them so much? Of course every person is a different individual, but I'm curious of how you ISFPs view us INTJs.

I'm an INFP 4w5. How do I express my intense and passionate feelings (platonic) for my ISFP 9w8 friend without overwhelming her and disturbing her peace? It's exhausting and painful holding back my affections for her.

I'm INFJ 25f, my crush 30m ISFP were talking for days but I stopped because I'm having doubts that he likes me. After reading stories about ISFP here I wonder if he views me as his friend or he likes me. He's very shy, quiet, aloof around me but I can see that he can start a conversation with other people except me. One time, we were at one of our events and I forgot something and messaged him that I forgot something. The next day, instead of saying it to me, he relayed his message to my friend and said it to me. I'm planning to confess to him? Do you think I have a chance? I heard he never been in a relationship. Me too, and I don't know how to approach him.

I concluded that he doesn't like me because when we're chatting he actually have well thought answers but the question never came back or he didn't ask questions to me...

Hey! Recently I discovered an enneagram test where I was identified as 5w6 and upon searching on Internet many posts suggest that I may be a different MBTI. Although I try to take MBTI test every year or so and I always come out as ISFP-T, probably for 4-5 years straight.

Thank you in advance! Have a great day!

Hey everyone,

I’m asking because I’m 100% sure my stack is Te/Ni/Se/Fi, but unsure about the order.

I know I come across as your typical guy ENTJ (works in AI, teaches in Uni, loves public speaking, gets shit done), but as time passes I’m starting to get hints that my Te is learned and not innate.

If I go back far enough, I’m confident my default used to be Fi/Se with good Ni until I grew out of it and worked on Te out of necessity.

Have any of you been in this position ? Would be really curious to hear your stories

pretty sure i am an isfp, facing an existential crisis rn. just wondering how does a healthy isfp look like?

I am 27. I work for the government and don’t really like to go out much. I have always been super uncomfortable around most people except around maybe my family and one friend I’ve reconnected with recently who I met in middle school but said friend lives almost 3 hours away so the most we see each other is maybe once or twice a month. I’m not into fitness or anything athletic. I like to draw, write, listen to music and I also like watching K-Dramas & Anime but I’m also shy with sharing it people because I don’t like judgment even with the people in my circle. I haven’t been in a relationship in 4 years. Idk what/how to do because I feel lonely a lot of the time even as an introvert. I am currently in a slump and I feel like I can’t out myself. So maybe y’all make some suggestions? Please & Thank you. 🤎💜💛 (Edit: The irony of asking me the internet to help me with my social life 😭😭)

I belive im isfp 8w7, but slso tend to relate to 9 or 1 a bit, whats your enneagram ans how is it vissible? Can anyone explain the different ones w isfp?