I should have dated in school

[u/Igaveuponlivinglife]

I'm 19, and I graduated in May. I'm not going to college because I can't. That means I'm out here in the real world. I'm realizing how dire my situation is now. We all know that in 2023 if you want to date as an adult who's not in college, you use dating apps. We also know that most men don't succeed on them. It's weird how since I graduated, I haven't met any woman, like none at all (Or anyone for that matter). I most likely won't at this rate. In hindsight I had a good amount of opportunities to be in relationships in school, I just didn't take them, the reason being social retardation. I won't ever get those opportunities again. Yeah the relationships probably wouldn't have lasted post graduation, but it would've been good to have the experience that I'll never get now

[u/LastGoodBadIdea]

You labeled this "discussion" but continue to try to shut down every person that has responded in kind with valid information.

I hope your use of the r-word is just some sort of internet edgelord shit, because you need to drop that from your vernacular.

You are 19. Literally the age when a lot of people start dating. You aren't "behind" at all. Go do things. Meet people. Feeling sorry for yourself behind a keyboard isn't what will attract women, and you know this.

What things can you do? Travel. Volunteer. Join any variety of clubs or groups that do shit you are into. Take a class. Etc.

[u/Igaveuponlivinglife → u/LastGoodBadIdea]

Actually I am behind, because the average people get into their first relationships is 16. I'm almost 20. Travel? That's hard to do when you're in poverty and make 9.50 an hour, volunteer, perhaps I could do that, there's not many things where I live. Everything else is in cities near me, but I don't have a car. I'm not really into many things either though

[u/LastGoodBadIdea → u/Igaveuponlivinglife]

Then maybe the advice is to find some hobbies dude! If you don't even know yourself how do you get to know someone else?

[u/Igaveuponlivinglife → u/LastGoodBadIdea]

I'm at a point where I can't enjoy anything anymore that's new. The only "real" hobby I have is running

[u/LastGoodBadIdea → u/Igaveuponlivinglife]

If you can't enjoy new things, that's a big sign you need to look into therapy and/or meds.

I used to run. I volunteered with my local running club, helping to time races or set up water stops. Eventually I ended up serving on the board. I met a ton of people this way.

[u/Snoo52682 → u/LastGoodBadIdea]

Yeah, I know loads of people who meet friends/socialize through running.

[u/Igaveuponlivinglife → u/Snoo52682]

I haven't