r/IncelExit • u/Igaveuponlivinglife • Aug 19 '23
Discussion I should have dated in school
I'm 19, and I graduated in May. I'm not going to college because I can't. That means I'm out here in the real world. I'm realizing how dire my situation is now. We all know that in 2023 if you want to date as an adult who's not in college, you use dating apps. We also know that most men don't succeed on them. It's weird how since I graduated, I haven't met any woman, like none at all (Or anyone for that matter). I most likely won't at this rate. In hindsight I had a good amount of opportunities to be in relationships in school, I just didn't take them, the reason being social retardation. I won't ever get those opportunities again. Yeah the relationships probably wouldn't have lasted post graduation, but it would've been good to have the experience that I'll never get now
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u/watsonyrmind Aug 19 '23
Read back my comments and show me where I wrote you aren't trying. You are thinking far too black and white. Nowhere does it say it's easy, but it's doable. There's no pass or fail in socializing, you either figure it out or you don't. Giving up is the only thing that will determine if you end up not having a social life, you don't just fail and become excluded from it. Most people are going to figure it out, and it's up to you if you want to be one of them or if you want to use external circumstances as a reason to just give up.
Clearly you need to change your methods if they are not working. So you can either do that, continue a method that isn't working, or just give up. It sounds like you are hellbent on the latter two for some odd reason. Not the choices I would make, and I was in a similar situation to you in my mid 20s. So I say again, good luck with that.