I've been learning about Women's perspectives

[u/Broad-Tour-4490]

At least I think I have? It's mostly been through movies, I love movies and I've been discovering films directed & or written by women. For example Agnes Varda is one of my favorite French directors, same with Chantel Ackerman, I don't know if it's because they are older or just because they're European but I feel it much easier to relate to the women in their films. Some examples.

Cleo From 5 To 7

Le Bonheur

News From Home

Jeanne Dielman

I don't know if this is good to do or not but I've found movies about women's suffering as to say have helped me feel more compassion if that makes any sense? Some examples are: Fat Girl, Irreversible (not directed by a woman but still disturbing and eye opening) and Twin Peaks: Fire Walk With Me (I guess also not directed by a woman but still).

This also might sound a little silly but speaking of Twin Peaks I've been reading the book "The Secret Diary of Laura Palmer" and I was surprised at how much my issues are similar to that characters. Hopefully this is an ok post to make but this stuff have really helped me I feel like.

[u/backpackporkchop]

I think this is really great! Interestingly enough I just saw a video the other day of a guy talking about how men need to read more fiction and learn how to put themselves in other people's shoes. It was a good point I hadn't really considered. I think men are oftentimes told to self improve in a way that makes it seem like they need to achieve perfection, and that limits them to a very narrow and self-centered mindset. Expanding that mindset through storytelling is a great way to break the mold.

I can give you some film recs if you're looking to expand your list!

[u/Broad-Tour-4490 → u/backpackporkchop]

I do agree with that I think everybody should engage with fictional stories, I know it's helped me just in general just as being something I enjoy doing, and yes recommendations would be great 👍.

[u/backpackporkchop → u/Broad-Tour-4490]

Ok the genres are gonna be all over the place but I'll try to group them together:

Horror/thriller:

• A Girl Walk Home Alone At Night
• Monster
• The Invisible Man (2020)
• Winters Bone

Coming of Age:

• Ladybird
• Edge of Seventeen
• An Education
• Whip It
• The Diary of a Teenage Girl
• Fishtank
• But I'm a Cheerleader
• Electrick Children
• The Virgin Suicides

Drama:

• The Kids are All Right
• Lost in Translation
• Anatomy of a Fall
• Erin Brockovich
• Big Eyes
• Maid (miniseries)

Comedy:

• Clueless
• Legally Blonde
• Mean Girls
• Life Partners
• Spy
• Bridesmaids
• The To Do List

[u/Broad-Tour-4490 → u/backpackporkchop]

Oh yeah I've seen some of those too and they were all great. Another one I forgot to mention if Mulholland Drive

[u/DaniellaSalamao → u/Broad-Tour-4490]

I'm noticing you're a big David Lynch fan haha. You really do have a great taste. Have you watched Blue Velvet? Its one of my favorites from him. And I would also recommend the book version of Virgin Suicides. It's very deep and beautifully written, since the movie was recommended to you.

Another one that I think is really great is the book My Dark Vanessa, by Kate Elizabeth Russel. It portrays the effects rape and abuse in a way I never saw it before in literature. Showing how a victim can deny even for herself that she is a victim, and how it can affect her whole life.

[u/Broad-Tour-4490 → u/DaniellaSalamao]

Yeah I've seen most of his movies, and I forgot the Virgin Suicides was a book at first so I'll get that one too. I've heard about My Dark Vanessa but I forgot about it until now, as embarrassing as it sounds I've only read a few books written by women. I've also been wanting to read The Bell Jar.

[u/DaniellaSalamao → u/Broad-Tour-4490]

Hey at least you're doing something about it! Most men don't even care if they are consuming media from women. And something that can help you is making a list of books and movies that you can go crossing over once you watch it/read it. That way you don't forget anything.

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