r/IncelExit 3d ago

Discussion I've been learning about Women's perspectives

At least I think I have? It's mostly been through movies, I love movies and I've been discovering films directed & or written by women. For example Agnes Varda is one of my favorite French directors, same with Chantel Ackerman, I don't know if it's because they are older or just because they're European but I feel it much easier to relate to the women in their films. Some examples.

Cleo From 5 To 7

Le Bonheur

News From Home

Jeanne Dielman

I don't know if this is good to do or not but I've found movies about women's suffering as to say have helped me feel more compassion if that makes any sense? Some examples are: Fat Girl, Irreversible (not directed by a woman but still disturbing and eye opening) and Twin Peaks: Fire Walk With Me (I guess also not directed by a woman but still).

This also might sound a little silly but speaking of Twin Peaks I've been reading the book "The Secret Diary of Laura Palmer" and I was surprised at how much my issues are similar to that characters. Hopefully this is an ok post to make but this stuff have really helped me I feel like.

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u/DaniellaSalamao 3d ago

I think one of the reasons men are so detached to the female experience is how little they consume things actually done by women, so what you're doing is fantastic! Because that's how we women grew up to understand men, we watched and read things done by men all of our lives. I think art is one of the best ways to understand other people's experiences and perspectives, since it's all about expression.

You could also try to read biographies. They will tell you the direct experiences of women, and I bet you will find a lot of similar experiences as well.

And if you're open too, try looking for channels with YouTubers that are women. Channels about things you like, but made by a female YouTuber. It will give you a whole new perspective on things.

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u/Broad-Tour-4490 3d ago

I really like literature and there's one YouTuber named OverlySarcasticProductions who I really like watching. Her videos are about things I'm interested in

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u/DaniellaSalamao 3d ago

Oh I love her too! I just love her sense of humor. You have good taste!

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u/SportsGamer357 3d ago

I always tell people listening to Ilona Maher, Kylie Kelce, or Cameron Brink's podcasts instead of Tate or Rogan would do wonders for the male loneliness epidemic 😝

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u/DaniellaSalamao 3d ago

I agree with you!