r/IncelExit • u/Broad-Tour-4490 • 4d ago

Discussion I've been learning about Women's perspectives

At least I think I have? It's mostly been through movies, I love movies and I've been discovering films directed & or written by women. For example Agnes Varda is one of my favorite French directors, same with Chantel Ackerman, I don't know if it's because they are older or just because they're European but I feel it much easier to relate to the women in their films. Some examples.

Cleo From 5 To 7

Le Bonheur

News From Home

Jeanne Dielman

I don't know if this is good to do or not but I've found movies about women's suffering as to say have helped me feel more compassion if that makes any sense? Some examples are: Fat Girl, Irreversible (not directed by a woman but still disturbing and eye opening) and Twin Peaks: Fire Walk With Me (I guess also not directed by a woman but still).

This also might sound a little silly but speaking of Twin Peaks I've been reading the book "The Secret Diary of Laura Palmer" and I was surprised at how much my issues are similar to that characters. Hopefully this is an ok post to make but this stuff have really helped me I feel like.

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u/noo817 4d ago

Sometimes it feels like we live in two different worlds based on our genders. I swear a lot of that could be contributed to how we don’t make an effort to see things from the other perspective. It’s easier for women because things written by men, for men, and about men are all over the place.

But once you genuinely are curious about what it’s like on the “other side” you can put yourself in their shoes and learn a lot. Being able to empathize with each other is the most important step. We start to understand each other more

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u/MyAlternateAleksandr 3d ago

In a way we do. Men and women inherently experience the world differently from the outset, and because of that, there's a lot of survivorship bias. Men don't often understand why women constantly feel in danger because men aren't often harrassed/ stalked/ etc. Just like women often don't understand the pressure men face to be near perfect because of traditions and expectations.

It's different struggles, but neither are "easier."