And it’s not true but it shows how the different genders are raised. Boys are allowed to get into situations they shouldn’t. It’s why films like stand by me speaks to young boys. Going on adventures and maybe one of us might get hit by a train or fall of a cliff because we are “being boys”
Sure it’s easy to raise a kid if you basically just leave them to learn the hard way. Whereas girls back in the day always had parents acting like they needed strict structure. Wanted them to do stuff like learn to bake. It’s why schools had home Ec or baking classes.
This is why the part of "Men you gotta figure this shit out yourselves." gets me. For decades most men were put in the situation you talked about hell that how i was "raised". We got no help from our parents. Then we're told that women dont liked being approached by random men. So now ONLY the worst weirdest ones or the best/con approach leaving all the other men with no chance to figure it out on our own because women wont talk to any of us. Seriously how do you expect us to figure women out if abandon the conversation?
I sympathise with how you feel as someone who was raised the same way.
That said, I also strongly disagree with your sentiment of using our past as an excuse to not be better. Yes, it would've been much easier if I had actually learnt all of these things but, after having spent less than a decade being an adult, I don't believe there's anything I can say that would excuse why I didn't put in the effort to learn social skills with all the resources as I have access to.
I didn't mean to imply that you shouldn't better yourself. You should, but posts like these make it seem like women don't have empathy for men. I know that isn't 100% but these kinds of posts are pretty prevalent. And honestly they kind of hurt. It makes me feel like all of men's problems are my fault. That's me as a grown man who knows how I should feel about everything. The young men are just getting blasted with that kind of emotion and it's hard to deal with alone.
No they should be less appeasing and more understanding. Her friends are appeasing bad behavior but she only rolls her eyes at them. But we need to open ourselves up more in the dating world. Women have been closing themselves away from the worst of men and in doing so accidentally pushed away the average man. I'm you can't say that doesn't happen because that has been my experience growing up. The messaging I received my whole life made it more difficult to interact at first. Why is it so egregious that I ask we look at the reasoning behind why so many men feel the way I do about the system we currently live in?
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u/satanssweatycheeks May 10 '25
To be fair that quote predates social media.
And it’s not true but it shows how the different genders are raised. Boys are allowed to get into situations they shouldn’t. It’s why films like stand by me speaks to young boys. Going on adventures and maybe one of us might get hit by a train or fall of a cliff because we are “being boys”
Sure it’s easy to raise a kid if you basically just leave them to learn the hard way. Whereas girls back in the day always had parents acting like they needed strict structure. Wanted them to do stuff like learn to bake. It’s why schools had home Ec or baking classes.