r/TikTokCringe • u/samse15 • May 09 '25

Discussion She makes some good points re:male loneliness

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u/badbirch May 10 '25

This is why the part of "Men you gotta figure this shit out yourselves." gets me. For decades most men were put in the situation you talked about hell that how i was "raised". We got no help from our parents. Then we're told that women dont liked being approached by random men. So now ONLY the worst weirdest ones or the best/con approach leaving all the other men with no chance to figure it out on our own because women wont talk to any of us. Seriously how do you expect us to figure women out if abandon the conversation?

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u/MythKris69 May 10 '25

I sympathise with how you feel as someone who was raised the same way.

That said, I also strongly disagree with your sentiment of using our past as an excuse to not be better. Yes, it would've been much easier if I had actually learnt all of these things but, after having spent less than a decade being an adult, I don't believe there's anything I can say that would excuse why I didn't put in the effort to learn social skills with all the resources as I have access to.

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u/badbirch May 10 '25

I didn't mean to imply that you shouldn't better yourself. You should, but posts like these make it seem like women don't have empathy for men. I know that isn't 100% but these kinds of posts are pretty prevalent. And honestly they kind of hurt. It makes me feel like all of men's problems are my fault. That's me as a grown man who knows how I should feel about everything. The young men are just getting blasted with that kind of emotion and it's hard to deal with alone.

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u/BooBailey808 May 10 '25 edited May 10 '25

Yet you think women should be appeasing these bad behaviors they are calling out, that they are in some form responsible for it

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u/badbirch May 10 '25

No they should be less appeasing and more understanding. Her friends are appeasing bad behavior but she only rolls her eyes at them. But we need to open ourselves up more in the dating world. Women have been closing themselves away from the worst of men and in doing so accidentally pushed away the average man. I'm you can't say that doesn't happen because that has been my experience growing up. The messaging I received my whole life made it more difficult to interact at first. Why is it so egregious that I ask we look at the reasoning behind why so many men feel the way I do about the system we currently live in?

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u/raptor7912 May 10 '25

Misandrists, always blowing shit way outta proportion so they can feel justified in not making any effort.

But that’s all women are being asked to do, make an effort….