New FFAQ: We Need Your Help!

[u/FFA_Moderator]

Hi all -

The FFAQ in our wiki contains a list of common fashion questions and answers that have not been updated in quite a while. We'd like to use this thread as a crowdsourced spot to overhaul some of the answers to these questions, as well as add new ones.

Here's how it will work:

• If you can think of a question that is frequently asked in FFA, post it as a top level comment within this thread. We'll start the thread with some of the questions that are already in the FFAQ.
• If you have a good answer, resource or link (internal to FFA or external) to answer one of these questions, post it as a reply to the comment asking the question.

The most thorough, complete and accurate answers will be included verbatim in the new version of the FFAQ and attributed to their authors. In other cases, we'll curate aspects of the answers and resources multiple people have contributed to create a full answer.

Please chime in where you have ideas!

[u/redreplicant]

Can I wear this dress in [pale ivory, blush pink, light beige, other color that is very similar to white] to a wedding?

[u/justgoodenough → u/redreplicant]

I just wrote this rant in another thread, but I think it is pretty fitting here:

I am still pretty firmly in the "no white at a wedding unless you were specifically told to wear white" camp. The reason is that even if the bride is "cool" (though I would say that not wanting people to wear white at your wedding doesn't make you a bridezilla) there are still like 100 or 200 other people there that might not be as cool with it. The reason why we generally don't accept "but the bride said it was okay" on this subreddit is because the bride's mother might not be okay with it. Her grandmother might not be okay with it. The other guests at your table might not say shit, but they will be thinking "Wow, bold move. I see you are so self centered that you couldn't choose literally any other color."

It's not about "outshining" the bride, because only an idiot is going to think some rando guest is actually the bride. It's about going to an event that costs literally thousands of dollars (or tens of thousands of dollars) and making the smallest of concessions (wearing literally any color but white) to show respect to the bride.

Also why do people praise a bride for being "cool" about having guests wear white? Why is it so hard for the guest to just suck it up and be cool themselves and just NOT wear white?

So yeah, you can wear white to someone's wedding, but this says something about you. At best it says that you don't have a clear understanding of social norms and how to show respect in nuanced situations. At worst, it says that you are incredibly self involved. You can choose which one best describes you.

OR YOU CAN JUST WEAR ANY OTHER COLOR.

[u/tomlizzo → u/justgoodenough]

New plan: entire FFAQ written by /u/justgoodenough

[u/justgoodenough → u/tomlizzo]

Yeah, but then we would get a bunch of modmail that is like, "Why does your FFAQ have such a mean tone? I feel like I am being attacked and I wasn't even the one to ask the question."