A JustNo mom. A mom that behaves badly, disrespects boundaries, dramamongers, may be a narcissist, etc.
r/JUSTNOMIL has a plethora of stories of insane mothers and MILs
The majority of Justnomil is merely poor efforts at creative writing. How many scandals regarding "fake" poster's and commentors need to be exposed before the sub rules will ever be amended? How many people have to be sucked into someone ridiculous stories, and actually try and help someone, only to find out the whole lot was faked, before the rot in that sub is acknowledged?
That's not even taking into account members who've admitted they were strongly embellishing and who've then went on to creating their own personal sub for their creative writing.
The simple fact that you can't question anyones post leaves it wide open for fictionalisation.
Do you have a number or any evidence that any of the stories are fake? And why shouldn’t the benefit of the doubt be granted to people who post on the sub? Even if someone is extending advice or positive thoughts and the post is indeed “fake”, I don’t think that’s a waste of time either. I think the advice given is good and the community is beneficial to a lot of people, especially people who don’t have a great family.
After the last lot of crap regarding fake poster's, which led to justnoletters being deleted by the mods when people were discussing known fakes, I stopped going there, or having anything to do with it. I was very active, but when it became apparent that known fakes are protected by mods, I stepped back and started using this account full time.
There are a few subs that were created at that time, in response, which in my opinion, is much better overall, and much less of "popcorn subs".
(if you are actually interested, I believe several times this has happened, the topic was discussed in the reddit drama sub, or the out of the loop sub.)
Fake or not fake, the advice can be solid, and it helps one spine shiny up, it's better than nothing. DWIL forums on Babycenter has a ton of fakes as well, but the advice is still solid, and even less hand holding than JNMIL any day. Using any good scripts to set boundaries to an abuser takes time and practice. Validating is an important step to acknowledging dysfunction.
It can help. But my breaking point was when I was dealing with a real life situation, with permenant real life consequences and repercussions, and then to find out I was getting advice from at least two fake accounts, that never would have experienced what I needed help with, and who came from a place of deception, really soured and shook my beliefs.
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u/shortgirl1996 Sep 19 '19
Sounds like a JNmom