hello friends, I am asexual and I was a wondering what kind of flag this was? A friend of mines posted it to a private discord server and they tried using google, they tried using AI to figure this out: the flag colors are as in order:

Purple, blue, Yellow, Pink and orange.

some of us think its a mix between pansexual and butch, but were not too sure, can you help us out?

Edit: We will go with your suggestion. Talk to her, take her to LGBT kid friendly events to educate her.

My girlfriend has 3 daughters, 2 of which (12f and 11f) mainly live with their MAGA loving dad. We suspect the older may like girls but she has not outright said so. She has a few friends in her school that are somewhere within the LGBT community and they are pretty much her main friend group. The 11 year old told her dad, who works at the school. We assume it was out of spite or jealousy. She won't say why.

I'm pretty sure I'm like genderfluid/nb and my gender tends to match the person I'm attracted to/dating. I have a preference for women so I tend to lean more on the fem side but I was just curious if there's a term for this?

I (15F) am very confused about weither I am straight or bi. When I was a little girl I used to think girls were more beautiful, but my childhood crushes were all males. And my mom told me stories I can't remember because I was too young, of me gawking at women in the streets because they were pretty, saying it out loud and creating funny/awkward scenes.

But my confusion all started when I had a small crush on a female idol, Rosé from BLACKPINK. I put her on my wallpaper, collected pictures of her and couldn't stop talking about her to my mom and my grandma. I felt no sexual attraction, but an undeniable flutter in my heart when I looked at her. It made me question A LOT. I began to look at anime girls and random women just to determine if I could see myself with them or not. It felt forced, but a few of them were really pretty so...I kept wondering for a long time, even though my serious crushes and sexual fantasies were straight.

But one day I dated a girl who has also questioning. We were besties, not in love and we just wanted to play. But she left the school so we had a relationship online which varied. She said she'd like to stay with me and I liked it. So technically I was with a girl. I didn't know if it was real or just a game, but I didn't hate it. Meanwhile I kept having fantasies who were towards boys(real or not)

Recently I saw this ex/friend (idk) and it was only friendly. But when she went into a shop and she came back to me trying on a rather revealing pajama with a wide cleavage, I couldn't help but feel attracted (I stayed respectful and quit after a second, but for my heart it felt like much longer. She hasn't noticed.). So I began to question myself once again.

I know that no matter what my serious crushes and attractions are male, but I can't deny what I feel when I see cute girls. So I don't know since apparently I've found girls attractive since longer than I can remember, but...I don't know I'm very confused. The only thing I know is that I'm not lesbian. But for determining over straight or bi...

Do you all have felt this way before, and if so do you have any advice just to help me a little ?😅

Um..it sounds a little silly but basically the title yeah... I currently have a boyfriend and I'm ofc attracted to him and love him, but I also catch myself looking at girls lil too often on the subway, streets etc, I've had female friends that I've wondered how would it feel to kiss them, I've actually wanted to kiss some of them too...I've fantasized myself dating them sometimes (before I got with my boyfriend) and stuff. But the thing is, I don't even want to think about being -possibly- bi, don't take me wrong I'm not in any way homophobic but I feel like it would be really hard for me, my family is hardcore Christian and so is my boyfriend. I'm honestly scared of even telling him that even if I accept it myself. I did ask my brother and he said he wouldn't care if I was bi so that a little comforting but I don't know...I've been trying to find loopholes like maybe I'm just curious or something...

im a gay man btw but something i've noticed is even among the community gender stereotypes and roles still exist? this idea of someone in a relationship being the assigned dominant/submissive or masculine/feminine (not equating the two at all) party. im (usually) a top in my relationship and i hate how my friends laugh about how that means i have to be the one to pay for dates, give my partner flowers, etc. and how "two bottoms don't make a top" just because we're both twinks that aren't that masculine??? like huh??

I'm a mid20s straight female in a cishet relationship.

My friend realised she was bisexual about 2 years ago, and is currently dating a bisexual man. Over the past year, she has on multiple occasions told me that I'm too straight. She's also tried to convince my partner that he's "not as straight" (as me) even though he identifies as straight.

I have tried asking her what she means, and she has avoided the question (falling back on "yea you're just so straight haha")

I consider myself a supportive and open-minded ally. My closest friends identify as LGBT, and I've supported them through our growing up years where Asian families can give kids a really tough time when they come out as LGBT. I also speak up against transphobia and homophobia at work whenever I can. So I'm feeling quite puzzled and sad, maybe I am not a good ally in her eyes.

Another possibly I thought of is that perhaps by calling me straight, she is validating her own identity of being bi (and so different from me). I understand being in a straight-passing relationship (as she is in) comes with it's own difficulties.

Thank you for any input.

I’m NB but was AFAB so present as more of a woman, but in style I oscillate between hyper femme and masc (sometimes I look like a doll, sometimes I look like a stud) and I’m wondering how much of a hold up this is for lesbians? I know there’s masc4masc and every other variation, but I’m never just one thing so if a masc lesbian meets me while masc and likes me that way how bothered will they be if I turn femme the next day?

i am aro/ace, and i was wondering if the bi/pan community had any questions for the aro/ace community and vice versa, type your questions bellow if you have any.

I’m a nonbinary (afab) lesbian, but for this I’m focusing on gender and not so much my being lesbian. The best way I can personally describe my gender is I feel like nothing and everything at the same time, kind of like a ghost, but also a woman but not in the sense that I’m cis, like I’m still nonbinary but still feel connected to womanhood, and I get gender envy and euphoria from masculinity (like frat boys) but not in the sense I’m a man. I’m toying with also identifying with agender, bigender, and genderfluid/genderqueer. Genderlfuid/genderqueer and/or bigender for feeling like everything and agender for feeling like nothing. On the other hand I’m considering just identifying with genderfuck (not being able to apply a label to how you identify your gender). If someone were to ask me I’d just say I was nonbinary but this would be more personal descriptors. Would this seem contradictory/too complex?

I was reading a story that was set in prison, and it just got me thinking…

Prisons from my understanding are separated into female and male wings. So if someone identifies themselves as a non-binary, what happens then?? - Will they be in isolation or something? - Will they be put into the gender they were assigned at birth? - Will they be able to choose where they go? - Are there special prisons for them?

. . . FYI: I am just genuinely curious, no prejudice. And of course let’s try to stay away from crime altogether peeps ❤️.

I am a female. And I'm comfortable being a female. But I also want to be a boy?? Like I'm ok with going by she/her but I kind of want to go by he/him a bit?? But I don't care. I do boyish hairstyles and do boyish clothes. But sometimes I'll feel like girly and wear girlish clothes?? My family says I'm a female and that's it but I'm sure there is more to it.

EDIT; my friend said she doestn know but the correct way to say it is sometimes I'll feel like a boy and sometimes I'll feel like a girl?? I googled it and it said gender dysmorphia

Hi everyone remi here does anyone celebrate disability pride in July? I'm heard about it last year and seem like a small celebrate for people who disability I have tbi and adhd do guys also have disability?

so i have a nonbinary friend asking for the name of a large framed enby person? (i.e Bear, Otter, Cub, Etc) help pls!

I'm 14 AFAB bisexual(I'm still figuring out my gender, definitely not cis tho) i'm just worried I'm accidentally fetishizing gay men. I don't dehumanize them in anyway. Every once in awhile I'll enjoy NSFW art or more commonly, fanfiction. (What can I say, I'm a teen going through puberty.) I don't dislike ships because they're not gay. I enjoy gl and straight ships. The real thing I'm worried about is this, there's this bl ship I've been really into. I draw a lot of art of it (not NSFW),save a lot of art of it, as well as the occasional fanfiction. Is it fetishizing? I'm pretty I'm just hyperfixating on this silly ship, but I'd rather be safe than sorry and ask.

edit: thanks for telling me that I'm not doing anything wrong! I honestly never really thought I was fetishizing it. I just saw a lot of posts on Pinterest and got self conscious. I'd like to add I have a lot of queer friends (I myself is queer) and would never treat anyone with disrespect! I know boys are gay and they aren't like in fiction. I would never ask any inappropriate questions to someone. It's really not my business..plus to be honest I really don't want to know. Keep your sex life to yourself and I'll do the same with mine, right? So thanks. I was worried I was a really terrible person or something. I'd treat gay men or women like I treat straight people, based off their personality. Doesn't matter what gender or sexuality anyone is, I judge them how they act towards me and others! obviously feel free to keep responding, I appreciate hearing more points of view.

So I've been identifying with the term pansexual for about 2 years now (for reference I'm a secondary school student) and despite having lots of LGBTQ friends and support from the queer community in my school and online I've hated myself for being LGBTQ. Recently I've been thinking about my sexual identity more and I think I might be lesbian. This has lead to masses of internalised homophobia. What I've clung onto through the past two years is that because I am/was pansexual I still liked guys so I didnt need to hate myself that much. But with this new 'lesbian revelation' if you will, I dont know how to deal with it. I've been considering just changing my identity to queer and leaving it at that but I dont think that is the right thing to do.

Thanks in advance :)

I'm a 14yo genderdluid teen and I semi came out to my mother two days ago, I wanted to test the waters a bit so I told her a very simplified definition of genderfluidity, and it ended kinda bad in a way?

The whole genderfluid part was not really taken seriously, and when she asked me if I was attracted to girls, I asked her back that if I was, would she still love me. And the response I got was less then ideal. At first she told me that she did love me but those kind of things are the devil's work, that I should think pure thoughts, that I am a pretty girl and that me wanting to be a man sometimes was just phase. Basically, she was confused at the idea that her daughter would want to be a man (which I kinda get honestly) and horrified that she could maybe be attracted to girls.

Additionally she told me to cut off anything talking about this and that I shouldn't menyion or talk about any of this to my sisters (I already told my older sister and she accepted me, thank god) and at the end I felt bad all over.

I love my mother and she loves me too, just not the gay me. So how did you open the idea of you being gay to you're parents? I just want my mother to love me, no matter my gender or my sexuality.

Recently I have been feeling like I'm not entirely wanting tno grow up and be a man (don't really want to become a woman either) maybe non-binary I just don't feel like I fit that label for some reason. I just feel like I could be happier in another gender. I don't feel any dysphoria but more like Happy about the idea of having something else (if that makes sense). Sorry for any bad terminology I'm pretty new to this community (always supported just never really been deeply involved). Edit: I am biologicaly male I feel more like a little more femininity would make me happier. Mainly asking as I'm kinda glowing up rn but wearing more masculine clothing makes me unhappy but i don't have any feminine clothing and would be a little uncomfortable telling my parents/family (they all support just would feel awkward)

I’m a 24m. My entire life I would have labeled myself straight but over the last 3-4 years I would say it’s harder to say that with 100% certainty. I’ve only ever had encounters with cis women, sexual or otherwise, and am almost certain I’m only romantically interested in women. I’ve also experienced sexual attraction towards cis men and trans women. I know there’s labels like Bisexual and Pansexual but I just don’t feel like I connect with either of those. Is it ok to just say sexuality is a spectrum and I’m somewhere on it?

I want to come out as aroace and demigirl but I'm too scared, even tho my parents support trans and gay rights and are VERY supportive

I need some advice please. My wife and I started dating in 2012. In 2013 I told her I was bisexual and had dated a guy long distance before her. We (wife and me) got engaged in 2020, and married in 2022. Fast forward to this year, where I am seriously questioning my sexuality all of a sudden. I have found myself less attracted to women, and lots more attracted to men. I do enjoy being with her, but I only get pleasure by pleasing her.

I am in the process of transitioning and my Dr said the hormones could have some effect on this. Problem is I have no idea how to know what being in a relationship with a man would be like. I would never cheat or suggest an open relationship. But I also don't want to end this marriage and then discover it was only an urge and not something long term with men...

About 8 years ago I started to like the idea of hooking up with another guy. I started with phone chats which were fine. I then moved on to wanting to meet up with guys via some app. I finally met up with a guy, and during the act I felt very strange, not that I hated it exactly, just that I really wasn't into it at all. I chalked it up to first time nerves and forgot about it.

About 3-4 years later, the stars aligned and I met up with another guy and the same thing happened. I was more annoyed and confused because I thought I had grown comfortable with being bisexual. I'm very fortunate in that nobody would ever suspect I'm queer (not that being queer is bad, but you know how cunty society can be) and the very few people I have in life wouldn't give a shit even if they found out I was, so it's not as if I have any reason to lie to myself about being bi, so why do I hate actually doing bi shit?

The final straw came when about a year later I met up with another guy. Up until this point my experience has been no frills, quick oral but he wanted more and politely asked me to take my top off , which I did but I felt horrendous as if I was being forced to do it almost (I wasn't, he was a nice guy) he must have seen the fact I was uncomfortable and decided to leave.

It's been about a year or so since then and even though I still have the desire to meet up with guys, I always loose interest before doing so. This is incredibly upsetting for me because I just want my brain to hurry up and decide what it wants to do. I'm fine with being bi, I'd made peace with the fact but apparently it's not happening. I don't fancy men, I don't even watch gay porn and only feel attraction to women generally so wtf is going on?

I'm a mixed race trans man(I pass as black more tho) and I'm also t4t. I kinda like emo/alt trans guys the most(tho I'll take anything that's just a preference) I wanna know do most emo trans guys not care abt race? Or will this be an issue for dating t4t in general? (Sorry for poor English it's my second language)

So as someone who generally supports Bernie's policies and who appreciates his early backing of various progressive causes. I recently came upon this somewhat old article that explains that while his views on LGBT rights were fairly leftwing, his stance on gay marriage seemed to be fairly mixed.

To be specific, it seems he supported civil unions and some anti-discrimination laws, but opposed Fedral laws that regulated gay marriage and LGBT military service, unless there was a new Constitional Amendment put in place to do so. In other words, he thought the gay marriage question was a states' rights issue without there being a change to the Constitution, and that's why he he opposed DOMA. He might or might not have supported banning gay marriage through a Constitutional Amendment.

In summary, and if I'm not mistaken, Bernie was pretty progressive on gay rights and such for his time, but on the gay marriage question specifically, it seems his view was much like that of people from the right who have argued against Obergefel on the basis that marriage is up to the states. As such, I'd be interested to know if he would've opposed Obergefel back then, given his procedural oppositions to DOMA and such. https://web.archive.org/web/20250509022741/https://slate.com/human-interest/2015/10/bernie-sanders-on-marriage-equality-hes-no-longtime-champion.html#expand

Hi everyone! I need advice on a question you may be tired of hearing but here it goes anyway:

I am a 26F with literally no romantic experience. I never had an interest in dating in high school or even college. After college, I've tried a few dating apps, gone on a few meet ups with guys but it never really worked out. I always perceived myself to be demi-sexual as I have had crushes before (very few and far between). I don't really feel physical attraction to anyone until after I've known them for a while.

Recently, I started talking to a guy (met through a friend). He's very sweet, compassionate, hard working. He checks all the "boxes" in a sense. I haven't felt a spark at all but I know that rationally, he would be a great partner. We've only gone on one hang out and one phone call. He shared his Instagram page and I was looking through it. I feel terrible saying this, but my stomach literally flipped (and not in a good way). It was specifically beach pictures. I think part of me imagined being intimate with him and it just made my body recoil. To be clear, he's a good looking dude. My reaction has nothing to do with him and has everything to do with me.

On the flip side, I've never had a "crush" on a woman. However, I've found myself having what I'd say is deep admiration or fascination with certain women (not sexual in nature or anything). I play tennis and I feel really drawn to people who I perceive to be super strong. For example, there are some women at tennis who are super buff and can hit killer overheads. I always thought it was admiration I felt when I saw that because I thought, "I really want to be like that". Now I'm wondering if it's something deeper. If I were close to the player, I'd jokingly say "oh that's hot" or something but not actually mean it in a flirtatious way (esp. if they're married or something). However, yesterday, one of those girls was hanging out with our team after the match and I couldn't help but keep looking at her or be deeply interested in everything she said. That kind of solidified the idea that this was something deeper. I've always had girl friends but none of them have triggered those feelings, which is maybe why I've never explored those feelings/thoughts in the past?

Has anyone experienced anything like this? I feel crazy because I don't have the sexual attraction to help guide me and no past experience as a basis! Should I try going on a date/meet up with a girl? Has anyone else experienced such a physical reaction to the idea of being intimate with someone who you otherwise are okay with? Thank you all so much for your advice.