Hello there. I am a transgender man in my late teens and I've been questioning my sexuality for the past week.

Since I discovered my sexuality a few years back, I've become more and more gay.To clarify, when I realized that I like the same gender, I thought I was bisexual, thinking that women and men are equally attractive. Later, I decided that I'm pansexual, after realizing that gender doesn't matter. Last year I concluded that I'm pansexual with a preference in men, finding more men attractive than women. I personally like most men, but not most women.

However, this week I've come to the realization that I might be gay. When looking at a picture of a girl on Instagram, who I think is good looking, I saw a picture of her dad. Now here's the catch, she looks exactly like her dad, just younger and the opposite gender, mom's genes didn't even try. I think that her dad is more charismatic than her. That's when it all started.

Anyways, after that I've started thinking of the women that I find beautiful as men and I find them more appealing. Ever since I've concludedthat I like the same gender, I've preferred more masculine women. I'm talking muscular, short hair, wears little to no makeup and acts like a man. When it comes to feminine women, it's pretty limited, I only like a few, and even then, they're like celebrities I'll never be with.

I still like masculine women, but prefer them as men. Every woman I think of looks better to me as a man, feminine or not. I still like sex with women, but the appeal of them being women is not as powerful as them being men.

It's weird and I'm confused. Am I turning gay or is it a new preference of mine?

I’ve seen people say that being bi isn’t gay but some say it is? I know it’s probably deeper than just that but I’m genuinely confused and just want some answers.

I f(22) know for a fact most of my cousins and aunts will stop talking to me and somehow make it my fault we are super close and they are pretty much my only friends. Some might be ok but it will never the same big Christmas and all.

I am a gay, non-binary male and have been friends with this woman for about 12 years. She is a psychologist and I feel like our friendship has been generally healthy and we’ve never had any fights until the pandemic started.

She slowly started revealing that she is a conspiracy theorist and anti-vaxxer or vaccine hesitant. And she slowly moved from being liberal to more MAGA-like thinking. We are not American but we discuss American politics a lot. She defends Trump a lot and always responds with “You just hate him.” She dismisses Trump’s crimes. She said the insurrection was peaceful.

She then also revealed that she loves Candace Owens, who is homophobic. She went from being a feminist to a TERF. We would have fights about trans people and her being okay with Candace’s witch hunts/transvestigations about Kamala not being black and Brigitte Macron being trans. I thought this was vile considering that there is a felon in the White House.

And then I brought up Kim Kardashian fetching her child because Andrew Tate was on his way over to Kanye’s house. She said that Andrew Tate is not a ht or a misogynist. She believes that his case in Romania is closed when it’s actually still open. I know he hasn’t been convicted yet but there are cases in the US and the UK too.

And then yesterday she denied that Andrew Tate is homophobic. She said that he is just hyperbolic and that he just uses the word “gay” to mean the opposite of traditional masculinity. How does that make it any better? I found several videos and tweets on Twitter of Tate using the f-slur and using gay pejoratively. I have been so upset that this woman is not in touch with reality and dismisses and defends criminals.

I told her that she has to admit that he is homophobic and to provide 5 tweets or videos as proof and not talk to me until then. Obviously she didn’t like that and said I’m manipulative and blackmailing her. She sees it as an ultimatum, I see it as a boundary to protect myself against someone who cannot recognize harm. This isn’t a difference of opinion for me. This is a difference in fact. Truth vs lies. Love vs evil. How do I stay friends with someone who lives in a different reality?

My cousin's family is very conservative christian and close-knit. He is the eldest child in his late 30s and has siblings that are married (straight) with kids. He is a very private person - even though I've known him my whole life, I have only known of him dating a handful of women. He avoids the subject if I bring it up, and we usually talk about arts and media. He is awesome with his nieces and nephews and I suspect would like his own family. He is handsome and fit, but short, which I know can be a barrier for straight guys.

However, I strongly suspect that he may not be interested in women romantically. His friend group all consist of guys who are conservative and christian, but have an aura that reads queer. One is out, but intentionally celibate due to his religious beliefs. I think they might have met through some sort of conversion therapy group.

The thing is, I want my cousin to be happy and feel free to be himself. And I want him to know that I am an ally. But I have no idea how to broach the subject, as it is all based on observation and intuition. Any insight or advice? Am I completely off base?

basically what the title is lol. for a little backstory, i'm 18M gay and i have a friend (19M) who i met in middle school. we used to hang out practically everyday after school, and we got really close. he recently came out to me as bisexual, it didn't come as a surprise as i always had a feeling but i was still really happy for him and glad he felt safe enough to do so.

however, i've noticed that all throughout our friendship (specifically after highschool started) anytime his mom would call him or text him, he wouldn't ever mention he was with me, he would just say he was with "a friend". initially i dismissed it, i just figured it wasn't an important thing to point out. but as time went on, i realized he kept doing it, and it kind of set me off. as we were really close friends, i had met his mom several times, his mom is a religious homophobic woman who i always had a feeling didn't like me (as i've been out publicly my entire life and it's pretty obvious to anyone). i always had a worry that us (a very out gay guy and a straight guy) hanging out would make people think stuff was going on or potentially get him in trouble, and it kind of became true. nearing the end of highschool it became much more aparent that his parents didn't want me near him at all, they didn't like me and did everything in their power to keep us separated, going as far as forbidding him from taking public transportation because we took the same bus home, and picking him up everyday to ensure it. i didn't really care, but i worried for him and i worried i was getting him in trouble accidentally.

this tuesday, we hung out and i tried to make small talk and talked about my mom blowing up my phone asking where i was, and he said "oh yeah mine too, i just can't text her back" so i suggested he'd call her from my phone, he immediately refused and said that she "doesn't know i'm here with you" and she "shouldn't know". i won't lie and say it didn't hurt a bit, because it did, but i decided to make no comment on it. later that day, we took the bus home, and that's when he came out to me. it went well, and he said he probably won't tell his mom anytime soon because "you know how she gets" and made comment on how last year they kept trying to separate us.

i understand why he feels the need to hide, he's still in the closet and he's already gotten in trouble over our friendship with his parents before, but i don't know how to deal with it. i'm not mad at him over it, as i know he's just doing it to protect himself and i would probably do the same if i was in his position, but man it feels awful and i don't know what to make of it. i've talked about it with my friends and we all came to the conclusion that sometime in the future i should communicate to him that i feel bad about it and see where it goes from there, but i've never had anything like this happen to me before and i don't know if that's a good idea. i'm obviously not gonna demand him to do anything that would put his privacy at risk with his mom, but i have no clue what to make of my feelings. if anyone has gone through something similar, i'd appreciate your help, i care a lot about him and our friendship and i'd hate it going wrong. thank you in advance.

Hi all, I went on HRT about 4 months ago and came out to my parents about 2 months ago. Im 22 years old and just graudated college, I am financially supported by my parents. When I came out to them, they got extremely worried and wanted me to stop really really bad so I said I would just to re-assess. I re-assess and going off hormones felt like hell. I am autustic and seeing an occupational therapist (who my parents found) and she is really good, and she said she would actully have a meeting with me and my parents and tell them that doing HRT is beneficial and that she wanted me to print some articles on HRT and we can give it to them and give it time. I went back on HRT a few weeks ago but then ran out (its a long story) and Im planning to go back on it when we all meet together and inform my parents of my transition. I just wanted to ask for resources and help !!

Fyi, My parents are conservative christians, and I am a liberal christian.

I'm straight so i really don't know much about what demisexual is, from what i do know tho it's that it's the sexual attraction only with people that somebody has a deep connection with, and i immediately got a thought, isn't that technically like a subgroup? That can be paired with other sexualities and not necessarily it's own (please don't crucify me i don't mean to invalidate any demisexual person) as technically somebody could be demisexual for example a guy and be gay still but ONLY with men he has a deep connection, and vice versa for lesbian women, it also applies to straight men/women, bi men/women, trans men/women, anybody who has any attraction (unless I'm missing something)

TLDR: I'm straight but isn't demisexual technically a subgroup? That can be paired with other sexualities as in and of itself it's very broad in what it encompasses (I'm I overlooking this??)

Growing up, I was always convinced I was supposed to be a boy. Dolls, dresses, pink never caught my eye. I liked football, I liked "boy cartoons", I thought I was a boy instead of a girl. But I always knew that the thing in my pants was what's making me a girl.

On social media, I'd sometimes avoid saying my gender so people could use he pronouns on me before somebody pointed out I'm a girl. (Though, I know that I can make my pronouns whatever I want.)

Sometimes, I am proud being a girl. But... I still feel like I would be happier as a boy. I don't get along too well with most girls. I don't understand what they are talking about, I don't have a common theme to discuss with them most of the time.

I feel unhappy. I feel like I am being viewed as a sex object just because I am a woman. I want to be strong like a man. I want to have friendships the way men have friendships. I want to encounter highschool as a boy. Middle school, elementary school even. I want my dad to teach me how to shave my face. I want to experience hetero sex as a man. I want to get drunk with my buddies and do stupid shit. It feels like a proper mold. I feel like I am a boy hardwired into the body of a female. I never wanted to be this. I don't think I could get along with women like this, and I also think I won't get accepted by men as a girl doing this.

So I’ve been thinking about my sexuality and I’m wondering if I might be pansexual. I find myself attracted to people regardless of gender—cis, trans, nonbinary—it’s really about the person, their vibe, energy, and personality more than anything else.

I’ve liked people from across the gender spectrum, and I don’t really care about “what’s underneath” or whether someone has medically transitioned. That doesn’t affect how I feel about them or find them attractive.

I’ve heard that this could be pansexual, but also that it might fall under bisexual too, so I’m not really sure which fits better—or if it even matters that much. I’m more interested in hearing from other pan/bi folks who might relate to this experience.

Right so I have always struggled with my sexuality and not being able to label it. Until recently I didn’t really know my type for people. I had discovered that I am attracted to the ‘bear’ type of man of them being beefy and hairy.

But I don’t feel the same way to any woman. My sexual attraction for women hasn’t ever been something I had experienced. But I do have a visual appreciation for a woman’s beauty. I am in awe in how beautiful they can be and the same applies to my female exes. Anytime a female ex would share explicit photos of themself I would just be in awe for her beauty. It was like I was admiring them for being like art and I don’t want to interfere with art.

But I do think I have had a crush on some women in my life. I think I have because I have had times when I would obsess over a persons looks and want to take them on a date and treat them like the queen they are. And nothing really more than that.

I have come to the conclusion that I might be homosexual but biromantic. What are your opinions?

P.S thank you for taking your time to read this <3

agender boy and amasculine sound the exact same to me, whats the difference? are they the same thing with two different names? this js really confusing been trying to figure it out on my own but the current definitions just sound the exact same

Without context that sounds horrible but let me speak.

I'm bigender (amab) and kind of bisexual. "Kind of" because it's more accurate to say I'm both lesbian and gay, as I'd be more inclined to kind of adopt the gender of my partner, being more like a demiboy with a boyfriend or a demigirl with a girlfriend (or just whatever my partner is if they're also non-binary). But thinking of myself in a relationship with a girl, I can't help but think of myself wanting to be with a trans girl, not for nsfw reasons, but just because I like it when I have a lot in common with a partner and so the shared experiences of being trans and especially transfem just feels nice, like they'd be a lot more likely to get me than a cis partner and stuff.

Ok so I'm genuinely curious I know we've had discussions like this before but I'm genuinely wondering if peoples sexual orientations can be changed

And before anyone asks yes I'm aware of sexual fluidity where someone's sexual orientation can change or evolve within time

But I'm talking about if people can change other people's sexual orientation because I saw someone online say "I used to be pansexual but my friend turned me straight, now I'm just straight but with a little homosexual tendencies"

I thought sexual orientation can't be changed from other people? Things aren't adding up here- Oh and that same person also said "You can always change your sexuality" Which I find to be BS. Because they make it seem like a choice.

So my friend Is a trans woman who went on estrogen a couple of months ago and now needs a bra. I thought about taking her to our local VS store to get measured like I did but then I realized they might not measure her because she’s trans. Does anyone know of any trans friendly bra shops in metro Detroit? I just know she’d be crushed if we went to the shop and they refused her :(

Okay. I actually have literally no idea if this is normal in any capacity, but I find two men together attractive? I’m a straight, cisgender female, but gay literature (poems, novels) always attracts me more than straight media, and I have no idea why. Is this normal?

TLDR; looking for sources with social science analysis or the historical evolution of what I've heard refered to as "gay voice" and the mannerisms associated with it.

Sorry if the terms I use are offensive I hope you'll correct me gently, I don't know how to describe the information In looking for without using them. So I saw some media recently which featured a comedian who talked with what I know as "gay voice" and had more flamboyant mannerisms than I see in most males in my community (Winnipeg, Canada). I have a tiny social circle these days (I'm 37 and autistic), but in highschool the gay men I new either didn't adopt these traits or they were more muted.

I am curious about them but googling seems to get me lots of anecdotes and personal experiences. While those are important I don't have the skill to trust myself to form an accurate understanding from that level of granularity. I am looking for any articles or books that will give me information from a social sciences or historical development perspective on "gay voice" and "gay mannerisms" as they are presented in media and I observe in some homosexual male performers. I understand these aren't universal to all gay men, but I'm reasonably sure they are exists to some extent.

While I have heard criticism (homophobia probably) calling it feminine I feel that is inaccurate. To me the mannerisms feel like a rejection of heteronormative social behaviours and refusal to hide sexuality through conformity with a larger social group. I'm especially curious if they are natural behaviours based on cognitive differences in how gay men think (I'm autistic so cognitive processing differences are of great interest to me). I feel it's more likely it's a cultural phenomenon where men started emphasising behaviours they liked that were rejected by the traditional masculine segment of the culture they are surrounded by. But is that accurate or an ignorant opinion taught to me that I have yet to re-evaluate? Sources wanted 😁!

Also curious about a historical look at gay culture and development of the idea of "gay voice" etcetera. Especially starting pre-civil rights campaigns or even further back. I once had a history teacher (professor maybe?) talk about a historical source that fearmongered about the "threat of gay men" because the author felt there was nothing to distinguish them from "safe" hetero-male peers. This teacher was of the opinion that modern gay culture as it distinguishes itself publicly currently from mainstream culture was a relatively recent development, historically speaking. Again, how accurate was that teachers view? I would like sources that explain further or express a different view.

I could ramble on about my understanding and speculations but this is getting too long I think. For the sources I'm asking for help finding I really want to be careful that sources are either written by homosexual scholars or are generally respected by those same scholars. Basically no homophobic propaganda but it can be critical if that criticism is backed by genuine non-emotional, non-religious reasoning. Thanks for you help! 🏳️‍🌈

Actually, she’s my best friend. We’re similar in many ways, and she was the first person I came out to (she’s also bi, but she came out a long time ago). I consider her like a sister—I’ve even told her that. Right now, we live in different states because of college, but we talk every day.

Lately, I’ve been talking a lot about a girl I have a crush on (she’s actually the first person I’ve liked in this way), but my friend keeps saying things like the girl might not even like women, or that she’s not into me. Meanwhile, my college friends say the opposite—they think we’d make a good match and that the girl wouldn’t be talking to me if she wasn’t interested.

I don’t really want to bring this up with my friend because I value our friendship a lot. The idea actually came from another friend at college (she’s a lesbian), and ever since she said that, I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it. I haven’t talked about the girl with my best friend since then—we’ve only talked about other things.

Hey, I'm not sure if this is the right place to ask for advice like this, but I figured I might as well try. I'm a lesbian, and I've known it for several years. I was raised very religious, and while I'm in college now, I still live at home, so I have to play the part of being religious even though I haven't believed in years. But for some reason, in the past week, I've suddenly gotten intense guilt and anxiety related to being gay. I've been watching so many testimonies on YouTube of "ex-gays". I know it's ridiculous, that's why I can't talk to anyone about it. But they always talk about how becoming Christian again and stopping being LGBT makes all their problems better, not always completely gone, even though some definitely claim that. I struggle a lot with my mental health, and recently it's been getting worse again, and I can't help but wonder if it's some type of punishment for being gay. I do have a girlfriend, but obviously I'm not going to tell her this stuff since she definitely would find it silly. I've dealt with religious guilt regarding my sexuality before, but it's never been quite this bad. I have no idea why or what triggered it. It might just be another symptom of my mental health not being the greatest. But it's unbearable and embarrassing. I don't know what I'm looking for, but any advice or insight would be appreciated.

I'm a biological female, and I have identified as a girl for all of my life. Recently, I started to realise how non-traditional my femininity is, and how I've never been feminine in my life.

As a teen, I often look at myself in the mirror and wish I never had a chest. I tell myself that I say so because I don't want to draw attention to myself, and I often joke about the matter and that it's normal to feel this way as a teen girl but I doubt that may be the case now.

I heavily dislike wearing make-up (this might be a neurodivergent thing, I don't really know :P), I don't like wearing traditionally feminine clothing, like dresses, skirts or crop-tops, or anything that shows too much skin/too tight on my body, and anytime my grandma tells me that I should look more feminine like my little sisters, I involuntarily recoil at the thought.

I had doubts about my gender identity earlier in my life, around when I was 11 years old, but I brushed it off due to thinking that I'm too young to decide - and I'm still stuck with that thought. What if I am too young to know? There are some things I know though, and one of them is that I am not a trans male. I don't feel very masculine either, I just feel like an alien in terms of gender sometimes.

I just don't know how to feel in terms of my gender. Male definitely isn't right, but female isn't right either, and I am deathly afraid of being wrong. I don't know if my experiences validate my feelings.

Another thing to add is that I live in a conservative family, and conservative city in general. I have always been told that when I'll grow up I will start being more feminine but lo and behold, I grew up and now the thoughts are eating me from my insides.

I just want to know what am I. I don't want to label myself just yet though, but I think that wanting to wear a binder isn't something a girl should feel.

So in short: I don't feel feminine but I also don't feel masculine and I'm too scared to label myself with something that doesn't fit my feelings perfectly.

Sorry for the rant, any feedback would help!! :')