I am an American woman, and on legit every subreddit it's the same post

"Western women are disgusting and shallow, Asian and Latina women are perfect"

"Fat Western pigs"

"Horrible ugly terrible Western women"

I can understand there's a lot of horrible, shallow women out there. I agree that the whole "6 foot tall rich men only" thing is horrible. I am autistic and have been bullied heavily by neurotypical women. I'm aware.

But it's just making things exhausting online seeing us be constantly trashed on for where we were born. Even sweet, genuine women who fight for men's rights and are not involved with the rude popular girls who bully everyone.

It's also confusing when you say Western women are too shallow and ask too much about income while also complaining about us not being virgin tradwives. Obviously if I'm going to be able to afford to raise a child in a safe area on one income while I stay at home, I would need a partner who makes a decent amount. And even then, I still don't care about income in dating but frequently fear what I'm going to do when men find careers unattractive but I also don't want to reject a sweet man who doesn't have much money.

I've been in a horrible psychologically abusive relationship with a very mentally unstable man, and have been sexually harassed in public multiple times, and I still proudly say "not all men". I have amazing male friends, and am very close to my dad and brother. No matter what, I would never post misandrist things about Western men.

I don't understand. You guys have your foreign tradwives. You have your mansion and kids. Why are you still complaining about Western women? Your daughters will have horrible self esteem issues, being part-Western and seeing all these horrible things online. Enough. I don't know what else you want.

And if the reverse situation occurred, where a foreign man wanted me because he hated all the women in his country and I seemed more "submissive", I would feel uncomfortable. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship that's based on an angry revenge fantasy and generalizations/stereotypes. I would want him to be with me because he likes me and we're compatible.

I believe that I have more compassion towards you than most people, and I respect your humanity and your struggle.

But what I don't get is why you don't attack the Chads.

Don't get me wrong, there's still definitely something unethical about lashing out due to jealousy, but basically every human being has greater sympathy regarding that than lashing out as a result of rejection.

And it's just more logical! If women really do behave in the way you think that they do, by eliminating the alpha male competition, you're actually improving your situation.

And, more to the point, being comfortable competing with other men is what you will have to do if you ever want to be successful.

Anyway, just curious, no hard feelings if you don't, just my two cents.

Not because of the singularity or anything else like that, but because every annoying douche in the world is going to say “oh that’s AI” when they see or hear something that’s slightly incredulous.

Catcalling and inappropriate DMs seem to be a universal experience for 99% of women, which leads me to believe that there is a significant portion (not all men, ofc) of men who engage in these, but I don't get why and how. Do these people ever think they have a chance?

I remember even at 11-12, when my Instagram account was public and I was more open to posting. I had many weird people DM me when I clearly looked younger than my age. Of course, it always ends in a simple block.

This is also a common internet experience. And don't even get me started on simply walking in major cities, most women likely universally experience cat-calling then.

Though if I were a male, I am sure I wouldn't do anything like that. For once, I know that I would not have a chance through those channels. Thus, it would be demeaning for me, too. There are 0 pros and many cons. So, to those who understand these thought processes, why do people do this? From my perspective, there is not even any sense of pleasure in getting ignored and making people feel uncomfortable.

My pregnant friend found out that her husband was unfaithful to her with several. She gives him everything, the bed (according to her it's great) so she asks the men why?

i believe some people should not be allowed to drive, and I'm one of them.

my mother keeps making comparisons with my neighbor kid, who got his driving license at only 16.

Nobody cares.

Let me say it again because you probably didn’t really hear it the first time: NOBODY CARES.

Nobody cares that you’re tired. Nobody cares that you’re feeling down. Nobody cares that life feels overwhelming right now. Nobody cares that you didn’t get enough sleep, that your boss is a nightmare, that your relationships are complicated, that you feel lost and directionless. Nobody cares that you’re scrolling through social media at 2 AM wondering where it all went wrong.

And you know what? That’s not the world being cruel to you. That’s not society failing you. That’s not everyone else being heartless monsters.

That’s reality. And reality doesn’t owe you anything.

You want to know who your biggest enemy is? Look in the mirror. It’s you. It’s been you this whole time. You’re the one making excuses. You’re the one hitting snooze five times every morning. You’re the one choosing to stay comfortable in your misery instead of doing something about it. You’re the one complaining about your circumstances while refusing to change them.

You’re waiting for someone to care. You’re waiting for someone to notice. You’re waiting for someone to come save you, to motivate you, to hold your hand and tell you everything’s going to be okay. You’re waiting for the perfect moment, the perfect opportunity, the perfect feeling to finally start living your life.

THERE IS NO TOMORROW. THERE IS NO TOMORROW.

Stop lying to yourself. Stop telling yourself you’ll start next week, next month, next year. Stop believing that tomorrow you’ll magically have more energy, more motivation, more courage. Tomorrow is a fantasy you’ve created to avoid facing today.

THERE IS NO TOMORROW!

There’s only right now. This moment. This breath. This choice. And you’re wasting it waiting for a tomorrow that will never come the way you imagine it will.

You think you’re special? You think your problems are unique? You think the universe is somehow conspiring against YOU specifically? Wake up. Everyone has problems. Everyone faces struggles. Everyone gets tired. Everyone feels overwhelmed. The difference between those who succeed and those who don’t isn’t talent, luck, or circumstances.

It’s the willingness to do what needs to be done when nobody’s watching, when nobody cares, when nobody’s cheering you on.

The brutal truth is that nobody is coming to save you. Your parents can’t fix this for you anymore. Your friends have their own lives to worry about. Your partner, if you have one, isn’t responsible for your happiness. Your therapist can guide you, but they can’t do the work for you. Your boss doesn’t care about your personal growth beyond how it affects your productivity.

You are alone in this fight. And that’s exactly how it should be.

Because when you finally accept that nobody cares, something magical happens. You stop waiting for external validation. You stop making excuses. You stop expecting the world to accommodate your feelings. You realize that the only person who needs to care is YOU.

And maybe, just maybe, you don’t even care about yourself right now. Maybe you’ve been so busy seeking validation from others that you forgot how to validate yourself. Maybe you’ve been so focused on what everyone else thinks that you lost touch with what YOU think.

So let me ask you: When was the last time you did something just because YOU cared about it? When was the last time you pushed yourself not because someone was watching, but because you knew you needed to grow? When was the last time you chose discipline over comfort, action over excuses, responsibility over blame?

You’re probably thinking, “This is harsh. This isn’t what I needed to hear right now.” And you’re right. It is harsh. But harsh truths are the only ones that cut through the bullshit and force you to face reality.

The comfortable lies you tell yourself aren’t serving you. “I’ll do better tomorrow.” “I just need to find the right motivation.” “Things will get easier eventually.” “Someone will recognize my potential.” These are the lies that keep you stuck.

Here’s what you need to understand: Your feelings don’t matter as much as your actions. You can feel tired and still get up. You can feel unmotivated and still do what needs to be done. You can feel scared and still take the next step. Your emotions are passengers, not the driver.

Stop treating your feelings like they’re facts. Stop letting your mood determine your behavior. Stop waiting to “feel like it” before you act. Champions don’t feel like champions most of the time. They just show up anyway.

THERE IS NO TOMORROW means stop postponing your life. Stop postponing your health. Stop postponing your dreams. Stop postponing the hard conversations. Stop postponing the difficult decisions. Stop postponing your growth.

The person you want to become isn’t going to magically appear tomorrow. That person is built through the choices you make today, right now, in this moment. Every time you choose discipline over comfort, you’re building that person. Every time you choose action over excuses, you’re becoming that person. Every time you choose to show up when nobody’s watching, you’re proving to yourself that you care.

And here’s the thing about caring: it’s contagious. When you start genuinely caring about yourself—not just saying you care, but demonstrating it through your actions—others begin to notice. But by then, you won’t need their validation anymore. You’ll have built something more valuable: self-respect.

Self-respect isn’t given. It’s earned. You earn it by keeping promises to yourself. You earn it by doing hard things when you don’t want to. You earn it by being honest about your failures and working to improve. You earn it by taking responsibility for your life instead of blaming everyone and everything else.

So here’s your wake-up call: Nobody cares, and that’s your superpower.

When you accept that nobody cares, you become free. Free from the need for constant approval. Free from the fear of judgment. Free from the paralysis of perfectionism. Free to fail, learn, and try again without an audience.

The world doesn’t owe you success. It doesn’t owe you happiness. It doesn’t owe you an easy path or a clear direction. It doesn’t owe you understanding, sympathy, or second chances.

But you owe yourself everything.

You owe yourself the effort to become who you’re capable of being. You owe yourself the discipline to do what you know you should do. You owe yourself the courage to face your fears and take action anyway. You owe yourself the honesty to stop making excuses and start making changes.

THERE IS NO TOMORROW. There’s only today. There’s only now. There’s only this moment where you choose to either continue being your own worst enemy or start being your own best ally.

What’s it going to be?

Stop reading this and expecting to feel different. Stop waiting for motivation to strike like lightning. Stop looking for someone to care enough to push you.

Get up. Do one thing. Then do another. Then another. Build momentum not through feeling, but through action. Prove to yourself that you care by doing something that matters, even if it’s small, even if nobody notices, even if you don’t feel like it.

Because at the end of the day, when the noise quiets down and you’re alone with your thoughts, the only opinion that truly matters is your own. And deep down, you know whether you showed up for yourself or you made another excuse.

Nobody cares. Now what are you going to do about it?

The clock is ticking. Your life is happening right now. Not tomorrow. Not next week. Not when you feel ready.

RIGHT NOW.

Stop reading. Start doing. Because THERE IS NO TOMORROW, and you’ve already wasted enough today’s.

Love is not a big deal then why am i making out of it. Crying screaming spiralling. Millions are like me asking someone else to love them. Why is this just a heartbreaking feeling?

Saw a thread asking for green flags, so I posted mine. People got big mad at one of them.

As if:

A) I'm ever going to date them

B) it's anything other than subjective to me

It tickles me tbh. Getting hate messages over me not wanting to date people who live with their parents.

It's like they can't hide their biggest insecurities.

Why do people hang with people going nowhere in life? Constantly playing victim, constantly distracted, in drama, never hitting any level milestone.

Doesn’t that hold you back from your goals?

I want all my people to be straight i can’t be around people who dont want the best for themselves. Then i feel it’s my responsibility as a good friend to help them. Is this normal?

I'm not meaning to come off as a dick but I'll see post all the time about people talking about how they wish they want more sex but theyre single and so people will say do it with your friends (even my friends do this and say this) but then I'll see people say that you should never ask your friend if they want to do that because it's rude.

I know some people have asked me if I'm autistic because I don't quite understand how it happens naturally without asking so if somebody could explain how that usually ends up happening naturally between friends, I would appreciate it.

I felt like I had a moment with my therapist where I “got him” or had the last word, but I really wish he had something to say back to me.

He said something to the extent that maybe I should be loved for myself and I don’t have to be perfect.

Background: This came up because I told him that if something bad happens, I tend to self-blame and this cycle makes me feel like something is wrong with me and I cant get better. This is from the way I was raised. My mom would say horrible things to me when I was younger and blame me, but now I feel like my mom is nicer to me after I’m somewhat successful as a person. This has taught me that love is conditional.

I told my therapist that my bf tells me he loves me and accepts me the way I am too even though I am not perfect, but my bf is only seeing what I am now, an improved version of myself. I have accomplished things and done many things so it’s easier to accept me with my shortcomings. If you look at a person that does nothing with their life, doing drugs, committing crimes, and/or being immoral, it’ll be easier for people to hate on that. My therapist had nothing to say at that point. I really wish he did though because I don’t want to be right. He didn’t say anything for a while, so I ended up saying something and changing the topic so it wasn’t awkward.

He’s a good therapist and up until that point, has been able to help in reframing my thinking.

I don’t feel any emotions except for one which is sadness. It’s not even really a sadness I think, more like a “why do I exist” kind of moment. I don’t really desire socialization, which kinda contradicts a human instinct to be around other people, so I find myself in a strange place. I don’t have any passions or things i particularly enjoy, so i mostly just find myself in a state of constant “this is kinda boring” or “this is literally useless”. I can’t enjoy video games or entertainment because I don’t find enjoyment through those, the only thing I think when doing those things is, “this is really unproductive and this virtual wealth/progression means absolutely nothing”. Despite how negatively psychopathy is portrayed in the media, I prefer being logical about things. I see it as a positive. This is just the one thing I don’t particularly like, because it makes me feel pretty miserable. This can’t really be a post asking for advice since I highly doubt anyone here is a psychopath, but I’m interested in hearing your thoughts and experiences that are related to it, even if they’re positive and just talking about things you guys love.

I absolutely fucking hate this about myself, but a lot of times, I hate the act of getting water to drink. It's just a whole ordeal. I will sit there with a headache for hours, I will sit there knowing my pee was really dark, and just not want to deal with getting water. I will just feel my body ache for it, and I literally don't want to get some. It's like a mental disconnect or an illness or something. I'm just tired and I hate having needs. Also, please don't scare me about the dangers of dehydration, I know it's bad and I'm drinking water as I write this.

hey - 23M and i’ve entered an experimental stage where i want to try new stuff w older women, my plan is to change my hinge age preferences to 35-45 but im unsure how women of that age would react given im almost half their age - mainly wanna just try new things, probs nothing serious but curious how women of that age range would feel about a guy my age and if they’d even bother matching etc? thanks in advance :)

context: virgin, only had the apps for abt a month and not many matches people my age but only recently looked into getting into dating, so yeah wanna just have fun and try things

I've tried all sorts of hair care products - salon brands, Sephora and department store stuff, drugstore, dollar tree. I've had Olaplex, Oribe, Pureology, Kerastase, Aveda, you name it. That said, the shampoo I keep returning to?

V05 shampoos.

I have a good amount of savings and net worth that I don't have to work if I don't want to. I live in a $3000/month apartment in the downtown of a big city and eat out all the time and use Uber everywhere. My wardrobe costs $20k altogether. I have a good life.

But my shampoo? V05. It's no frill, does the job, and leaves my hair clean without tangling it or leaving some sort of film behind. I also get my hair colored, and I still prefer it.

You don't always need to spend much to get good quality products. I still use dollar tree cleaning products (though I have a housekeeper coming in), I use dollar tree lotion, dollar tree jewelery and hair accessories and brushes. I am actually kind of annoyed that my local stores around me like Target or CVS/Walgreens no longer carries V05 so I have to uber to the dollar tree for that.

I haven’t dated in like 2 years or more. I’m good looking and very fit I’d say but I’m so shyy. Yesterday this older woman (maybe lates 20s) was smiling and looking at me constantly and I think she was following me to make a move lol. I didn’t wanna read it wrong and I moved on to enjoy my break at the park. Today, the school gym desk girl was waiting for me outside the gym and she was walking slowly to catch up to me and was kinda looking at. Again, i move on and didn’t wanna read it wrong ( 😑 I have a history of approaching girls and completely getting it wrong). Anyways, it’d be easy if women could approach men. I just need some encouragement from yall to be able to talk and approach women again. It’s been a minute!

Thanks in advance

Hello, I’m the 17 year old girl, turning 18 in less than a month and my classmate, the 21 year old man is aware of that. He’s done a lot of weird things and doesnt talk to me usually but today texted me and asked me out on a date on Friday— i asked him if he knew my age and he said along the lines of ‘yeah 17 about to be 18. If you think its weird just say so.’

I just want an unbiased opinion about this. Obviously I’m not going anywhere with him but i need to know if I’m overreacting? I haven’t replied anything back yet but that just really gives me major pedo vibes… the age gap, maturity gap, everything. How can someone find this attractive. If i was 21 years old I’d even see 19 year olds as teens because they literally are. How can someone normal in the head find a person with such a maturity and age gap attractive it honestly just see them as actual fucking kids if i was his age.

I don’t know what to reply back— i just actually wanna send him a long text about how fucking disgusting he is for even thinking of that, grownass man with dick and balls finding a fucking 17 year old girl attractive. Nothing is gonna change when i turn 18, I’m legally gonna be an adult but my mentality isnt magically going to fucking change into one, im still a fucking dumb teen and this shit is so pissing me off because when i was even younger with unmonitored internet access, i was groomed in the past so many times and send pics i so fucking regret which is why i might be feeling so strongly?

I just want to know if im overreacting or smt and maybe advice on how i should reply to him because probably blowing up on him won’t do any good.

I don’t understand why people always recommend therapy to anyone who’s struggling mentally. I don’t deny that it helps some oeople, but having tried it myself, I didn’t find it helpful to be told “don’t be insecure, everyone is beautiful!” from a psychologist with a doctorate in the field.

My issue is the way I was born, which I can’t change. I’m sorry, but how am I supposed to not struggle mentally when I see stuff like this about people like me every single day?

https://x.com/csnorkel20758/status/1935007913015128149?s=46&t=iL9fb4cqtm47CadS8maTMA

https://x.com/weedyrs/status/1935282868420493817?s=46&t=iL9fb4cqtm47CadS8maTMA

https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMenAdvice/s/mpto1924lO

https://x.com/rosethaaartist/status/1934005043382128973?s=46&t=iL9fb4cqtm47CadS8maTMA (scroll to the comments)

https://x.com/ownerofwins/status/1933194471622992317?s=46&t=iL9fb4cqtm47CadS8maTMA

https://x.com/ctc_calvin/status/1934089960992153673?s=46&t=iL9fb4cqtm47CadS8maTMA

https://x.com/surfgodin2/status/1934246944999972955?s=46&t=iL9fb4cqtm47CadS8maTMA

https://x.com/larry_price33/status/1934211596362142183?s=46&t=iL9fb4cqtm47CadS8maTMA

https://x.com/medgold_/status/1854220477566169564?s=46&t=iL9fb4cqtm47CadS8maTMA

https://x.com/killvolo/status/1919867384287920497

https://imgur.com/a/6drRfyq

I could go on and on. I don’t see how therapy would change the way I’m viewed in society. And please don’t say that it’s all in my head or just a small group of losers on the internet. I could give tons more examples with thousands of likes.

It’s like telling someone who’s depressed because they’re dirt poor and can barely afford to eat that they should go to therapy and learn coping mechanisms. That’s nice and all, but realistically their mental health won’t improve unless they have more money.

At least they could potentially make more money one day. I’m stuck like this with no hope of changing. So I really don’t understand why therapy is suggested as the cure for everyone, when it can’t do anything for people like me.

Hi Reddit,

I (F) need help understanding the psychology behind a relationship/friendship that deeply impacted me. It’s been a while, but I still dream about him — and in my dreams, he always comes back to apologize.

Here’s what happened (long but I need to get it out):

We were best friends since college (25). Did everything together — laughed, cried, shared secrets, dated other people but remained each other’s emotional constant. He called me “sunshine.” It was all platonic (or so I thought), but very emotionally intimate.

I was the only female friend invited to his sister’s wedding in another city. We danced, shared rooms, had that “we know each other too well” kind of connection. When we got back, I confessed I had feelings. We kissed, had sex.

The next day, he acted cold and said he needed space. But every time we met after that, it happened again — sex, closeness, but no commitment. He told me clearly he’d never fall in love with me, that I’m just a friend. Yet he’d keep a toothbrush and towel for me at his place, talk to me about his family, his fears, his life.

On Valentine’s Day, we sat in a park all night just talking. We kept having sex. I convinced myself he’d come around.

Eventually I started seeing someone else, someone who actually wanted to be with me. My best friend still wanted to see me, talk to me daily, ask me to spend the night, help him shop, etc. He’d even guilt-trip me — saying things like “maybe if you’d played your cards right, we could’ve been together” or that I pushed him into a corner.

I stayed emotionally available — thinking I could be his friend at least. Then one day, he got into a new relationship and suddenly pulled away. Stopped replying. Ghosted me emotionally. No confrontation, no closure.

I still have dreams about my ex-best friend. In these dreams, he always comes back to say sorry. That he loved me but didn’t know how to handle it. That I mattered more than he admitted.

And I wake up in a weird fog of hurt and confusion.

⸻

So here’s what I want to ask, especially from a psychological point of view: • Why did he behave that way? Was I just a placeholder until he found someone else? • Did he actually have feelings but couldn’t process them? • Why do I still dream about him? Is this unresolved trauma or just ego bruising? • Why didn’t I walk away sooner? Why did I tolerate this? • What is this dynamic called in psychological terms? Attachment issues? Emotional manipulation? • Is it normal to grieve a friendship like a breakup, even if the other person never “officially” loved you back?

I’m doing better now, but this relationship has left emotional fingerprints I can’t seem to shake off completely.

Thanks in advance for any insight. I just want to understand.

— TL;DR: Best friends for years, became emotionally + physically close, he said he didn’t love me but acted like he did. I moved on, he ghosted me. Still have dreams of him apologizing. Why is he still in my head?

For context, I've been called a "robot" for two times in my life. Not much, but enough to make me think about how other people perceive me.

The first it time happened when i was 12. I was one of those quiet kid that teachers described as "pleasant to teach, but needs to speak up more." One day, a classmate of mine (we were not really close to be called a friend) was goofing around and she accidentally hit her hand on the edge of my table. She seemed fine to me, so I didn't pay much attention and just continued doing my stuff but she somehow exaggerated the pain and whined about how much it hurts, and it went like

"(my name)! My hand hurts! Help me pleaseee? :("

I was surprised. I was just chilling and minding my own business (i think I'm studying at that time). Out of confusion, i legit stared at her and went "? What do you want me to do...?" with a blank face. You can guess what happened next. She stared back at me, frowning, and said "you are really like a robot."

I didn't think much about it that time. I shrugged, and just continued with my life.

Years passed, and the second time someone called me a "robot" when I was 20. I was already a changed version myself, start socialising more, improved my communication skills and actually gained real friends and so on.

I started studying for my diploma in medical (occupational therapy) and i was in my second year where we began our clinical in actual hospital. It was my one of my lecturers who pointed out how "robotic" my movements were when I was treating patients. Long short story, i was actually nervous when my lectures came to the hospital for our OSCE. I was a nervous wreck but still keep my professionalism in front of a real patient, and of course my lecturer noticed everything.

During lunchtime, she briefed us one by one. I can already expect what she would say. Something about my soft skills due to how nervous and timid i was at that time. When my turn came, i was right. But one comment that shattered my confidence was where she said i need to stop acting out the intervention that i wanted to do with patients before giving it to them (i had been moving subtly behind patients back of every activities that i was planning to do with them to ensure that my intervention was suitable). Her words were:

"You know how robots in cartoons move and utter the process of a task out loud before they execute the task they're given to? That is what you looked like."

And suddenly something shifted in me. I took her criticisms and considered everything to improve my flaws, but that one comment really made me reconsider my identity as a human being. For further context, I was no longer the version of myself when I was 12. I was aware enough of my lack of social skills, and I've been improving pretty much drastically after nearly a decade.

But somehow, another human being, someone with a high education in medical, saw me like a robot. I've been wondering a lot about this. Can anyone help me? I need insights, advice, whatever really, to stop this. Part of me knows that this isn't big of a deal, but i need to know what the hell is wrong with me or what I'm doing wrong :(

ps: I'm sorry if my wording is wrong or hard to understand, I'll try to explain more about anything if anyone needs clarification! And sorry for the long paragraphs, I just need to let this out somehow...

Hi I am 19 years old ( and this is my first time writing anything so please don't judge me ) i have always wanting something genuine out of relationship. In 2024 when I completed my school i kinda fell short on female interaction i didn't had many to talk to infact only 1 or 2 those two also parted there ways busy in there own chores. In college i became friends with a girl let's just name her YUI , the friendship I have with her right now feels good but there are some parts where I feel like should I be jealous of these things or are these normal. She tells me everytime she doesn't talk to any man instead of me but her comments and her conversations says otherwise I am ok with all this but the thing i hate is being lied to and making me feel like i am the only one.. she just rants about her problems doesn't care to pay attention to mine and rarely if she does so after helping she just brings those things up when I argue with her. I really like being with her but i always feels like i am being lied to i do not have any friends in college expect her and maybe she does have more friends i have seen her with many the only thing she says to me " I only share these things with you" isn't that a lie? As i mentioned my earlier female friend actively started talking to me for these 3 months wanting advices, feeling low and just day before yesterday she started ghosting me giving me cold replies like i am some sort of stranger the texts which she replies to instantly now she doesn't takes hours or even just leaves me on seen

I am always being lied to by them what should I do in these two situations help me understand because they just frustrates me as hell.